Esther Perel
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5,077 appearances
21 recordings
15 series
first heard Sep 2024
last heard 21 Jun
Esther Perel’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Attraction plus obstacle equals excitement, love, desire.
It is that combination.
Right.
So the obstacle is the way.
The obstacle is what builds the plot, what heightens the intensity, what intensifies the love.
And what we want in the frictionless reality is a love like a permanent state of enthusiasm.
Right.
And love is not a permanent state.
Love is not about finding people who agree with you and who like the same things as you.
Love is actually this being discovered by someone from whom you're different.
It doesn't match algorithmic perfections.
Yeah, I'm so glad you said that.
I often say to people that my wife and I couldn't be more opposite as people.
Yeah.
And we actually like very different things.
Our idea of an ideal Sunday or a Saturday is completely different.
But those aren't the things that make the relationship good or bad.
So if someone said to you today, Esther, what skills should I be developing to be better at love and connection?
What would you encourage them to pursue?
Skill number one, curiosity.
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