Esther Perel
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5,077 appearances
21 recordings
15 series
first heard Sep 2024
last heard 21 Jun
Esther Perel’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Because you're part of a network of connections.
What you're highlighting is that is what we're so deeply wanting is that wanting to be found, wanting to be seen, wanting for someone to seek us.
But then when you go out into the dating world, and even if you meet people, you start to realize everyone's busy.
Everyone's got a lot of stuff on.
Maybe people are not that deeply into intimate connection and seeking.
Maybe you'll feel like you're settling because that person doesn't really pursue you as much as you want.
How does that translate into the real feeling of this person's nice, but I don't think they have that intensity with me.
And I don't think I have that intensity for them.
Intensity increases.
Intensity isn't just something that is a volcano that just like springs up inside of you.
So here's what happens.
We've now gotten so used to having all the answers in the palm of our hands with a bunch of predictive technologies.
that are basically removing all unpredictability, all ambiguity, all nuance, all doubt, where it tells me with no uncertainty where to go, what to eat, what to listen to, what to watch next.
I don't have to explore.
I don't have to experiment.
I don't have to delve into the unknown.
I don't have to make mistakes which I then correct.
And I suddenly have zero preparation for frustration and for somebody disagreeing with me because this thing gives it to me clear, black on white or white on a screen.
It's so enticing and so detrimental at the same time because relationships exist in a zone of ambiguity.
Relationship problems are paradoxes that you manage and not problems that you solve.
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