Esther Perel
speaker
5,077 appearances
21 recordings
15 series
first heard Sep 2024
last heard 21 Jun
Esther Perel’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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is this kind of disconnect, then you live with the feeling that you don't really exist inside others, which is probably one of the most important ways we feel not lonely.
And the way this starts is when we are little babies, at some point we throw the toy on the floor.
And when we throw the toy, somebody picks it up, we look at it and we throw it again.
And then again.
And then again.
And we understand something that is at the core of what helps us not feel lonely and alone.
That even while I don't see you, you still exist.
Then I start to play peek-a-boo with you.
And peek-a-boo means you don't see me.
You don't see me.
Here I am.
I exist even when I don't see you and you don't see me.
And so do you.
And that is what allows me to go out into the world and know that I won't be forgotten.
Know that you will come look for me.
That's why we play hide and seek.
It's the most incredible game.
There is no greater thrill than to hide and to know that somebody is looking for you.
But there's no greater terror than to feel that others gave up on looking for you.
This, what we call permanence, the permanence of love and the permanence of the others inside of us and us inside of them, is what allows you to be anywhere in the world and not feel alone.
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