Esther Perel

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5,077 appearances 21 recordings 15 series first heard Sep 2024 last heard 21 Jun

Esther Perel’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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Now, you can still say, I'm willing to go along regardless.

But often, later on, people say, I sensed it way, I mean, and everybody else saw it too.

How do we temper desire and trust?

Because sometimes we desire the people that are somewhat untrustworthy, but we trust the people that we don't desire.

And it feels like we're constantly caught in that Cat's 22.

Yes, you trust people you don't desire.

There's no problem there.

We don't have desire for everyone.

But I would put it like this.

When you talk about trust, our tendency is to think of it in totalistic ways.

I trust you rather than I trust you for.

For what?

I trust you for showing up when you say that you're going to come somewhere, but I don't trust you with money.

I don't trust you with keeping a secret when I tell you something private.

I don't trust you with our kids.

I don't trust that you wouldn't take credit for something that, in fact, I did.

For what?

I think that we all need to be honest and know that we trust people for certain things and not for others.

That is part of the course.

I trust you to be a wonderful lover, but I don't trust you to be faithful.

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