Esther Perel
speaker
5,077 appearances
21 recordings
15 series
first heard Sep 2024
last heard 21 Jun
Esther Perel’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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I trust you to be great company, but I don't trust that you would actually know how to make a commitment.
Distinction, discernment, good judgment.
It requires detaching from that allure that we have sometimes that we're just, you know, the people that I'm talking about, I'm thinking about female friends of mine who have got somewhat, in their words, addicted to certain partners.
You know, the sex life is amazing.
The travel is great.
I don't think it has anything to do with trust.
When you are in a pattern and you know it and it repeats itself and you think that person is never going to do this to me, that person is going to be kind, is going to rescue me, is going to be good to me.
That's the issue.
The issue is not why do you trust people you shouldn't trust who are not really trustworthy.
The issue is what is it about seeking consistently a certain kind of reparation, a corrective experience, which in effect is never going to happen because the repetition of the pattern is that you want the experience, but the experience didn't take place in the first place.
And that's what you are repeating.
We put the focus on you choosing bad people.
You always fall in love with the wrong guy.
What does it say about you?
What is it that you are imagining is going to happen there?
What is it that they are seducing you with?
Why is that seduction so irresistible to you?
The big art in relationships is to distinguish between what is yours and what is ours.
What is relational and what is personal.
Yeah.
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