Esther Perel
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
So now we start to discuss all our grievances, our resentments, our longings, our disappointments, our unfulfilled needs, et cetera, et cetera.
And it's like, had you talked about that?
Maybe it wouldn't have gotten there.
And monogamy and all of those issues.
It's like, you know, and more so in straight couples, actually, you know, especially around monogamy and questions like that and exclusion and boundaries and all of that.
So then there is, what do we talk about?
What is candid communication around physicality?
It's even, I touch you, do you like it?
I just saw you twitch.
Do you want me to continue?
Shall I stop?
Instead of guessing, they seem to like it, they don't seem to like it, I don't know.
I do, they don't respond.
Is it because of me?
Is it because they're tired?
Okay, I won't do it anymore.
Ask, check in, talk.
Sometimes you may get unpleasant answers.