Esther Perel

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5,077 appearances 21 recordings 15 series first heard Sep 2024 last heard 21 Jun

Esther Perel’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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When you are in a pattern that you are repeating, it is personal.
Of course, it plays out with another person.
Yeah.
But this is your story.
Yeah.
And now we need to go dig and excavate your story and find out what are you doing to yourself?
Not what is he doing to you?
Yeah, yeah, so true.
What do you think about the idea of people having a list of everything they want in a person before they find the person?
I think that it's a sad state of affairs that we have turned ourselves into products.
That we are commodifying ourselves to such a degree that I, and honestly, love will laugh at you.
Because true love is filled with surprises of things that you never imagined that the other person is.
And more importantly, when you go based on this kind of illusion of sameness or the illusion of you fit my boxes, you are ill-prepared for the first time the person doesn't play according to script.
And that is bound to happen in relationships.
At some point, the other one isn't going to think, do or say that which you thought they would.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And if you thought, oh, but on my checklist, it said that you were a person who liked this, then you don't know what to do.
And you're going to have, that will be fraught.
Yeah.
Prepare yourself for surprises.
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