Esther Perel

I know you're in it with me.

And that allows me to then think about something else.

but sometimes before you ask a question and this I'm going to say to all our viewers here ask yourself do you want to know the answer to your question or do you want your partner to know that you have the question give me an example did you fall in love with her did you think about leaving me did you hope I would never find out

Wait, what if we do want to know those questions?

I'm like, did he?

Well, that's the thing.

Do you want to know the answer to your question?

Because then you have to deal with the consequences of knowing.

Some people don't want to know.

But another person in very different set of circumstances.

I would need that.

Fair enough.

Because that for me would just be like.

But you just answered me.

I need to know because I'm prepared to deal with the consequences of knowing.

I just did an episode on my podcast, a 25 year affair.

25 years?

Yeah.

So that's not necessarily for our viewers here, but it is maybe your parents.

Oh, shit.