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It causes us to view situations ourselves and others in extreme binary opposites, e.g.

perfect versus a total failure without any middle ground.

so the evolutionary survival aspect primitive humans needed to make rapid binary decisions to stay alive such as deciding instantly whether something was a threat or safe or a predator or prey this leftover reflex biases the brain towards extremes childhood conditioning growing up in environments where achievements were heavily stressed or where love and approval felt conditioned oh my god

It's touching something.

Love or approval felt conditional.

Teaches children that mistakes are unacceptable.

Trauma and stress.

Black and white thinking is a common trauma and anxiety response.

When an environment feels unsafe, the brain tries to gain control by rigidly categorizing the world into safe or unsafe, good or bad.

Last one, perfectionism.

High achieving or perfectionist personalities often internalize messages like anything worth doing is doing right, leading them to believe that falling short of perfection equals complete failure.

I think I'm definitely number two and number four.

And a little bit of the...

Trauma and stress.

But yeah, two and four definitely resonate a lot.

You started reading two and you stopped.

That hit some.

Yeah.

That hit some.

So yeah, I also, I was talking to someone the other day about...