Fearne Cotton

People needed to have the tips, the tools, and we certainly still do.

But it feels like we're ready now.

Dr. Julie, tell us.

Yeah, brave and definitely disciplined, which no one wants to hear because it sounds so boring.

But the – I mean, I've said this on other podcast episodes that I've done, but –

The shift for me, not that I'm by any means like I've nailed it, but like a big positive shift in my life in terms of how I think about myself more so because that was not good before, has been the consistency of going to therapy once a week, which I feel very privileged to do, but also dedicating each day to remembering what the hell I just talked about or any ideas that came from that or moves that could be made because of what I've just discovered or done.

talked about got curious about on that occasion and i think we you know we do live in a world now where we all just want a quick fix in whatever way like i want the shoes i'm going to feel better um i'm going to eat that thing and then i'm going to get a dopamine hit dr julie tell me a tip and then my life will change it's actually it's every bloody day until we die

Yeah.

And also you have to know, you have to, I think you have to like yourself, right?

To bother doing it.

Because if you don't, if you've got low self-esteem, just like, what's the point?

You've got to like yourself.

And that's a whole other thing.

without fixing it oh that's so interesting i've never actually heard that being properly dissected because i think most people are confused we can watch all manner of content on instagram say or go on to youtube or whatever wherever you're imbibing this information and you'll be told by one person do a journal another person do affirmations another person this but actually to break it down and go right do affirmations but only if you bloody well believe it

Don't just start flying them out if you haven't got the foundation of, yeah, I do believe that I've got values and I am a valuable person to society, to my family, to my friends.

And if not, what an interesting time to change your life because you've actually worked out this isn't working.

And also, I guess if somebody has repeatedly told you when you were younger, you're a piece of shit, you're not good at this.

That, you know, it's not true, but you've been, again, hardwired to believe so.

And then that's a chance to go, why do I believe it?

It's because that teacher or that parent or that friend used to constantly berate me.