Fearne Cotton

You've got to like yourself.

And that's a whole other thing.

without fixing it oh that's so interesting i've never actually heard that being properly dissected because i think most people are confused we can watch all manner of content on instagram say or go on to youtube or whatever wherever you're imbibing this information and you'll be told by one person do a journal another person do affirmations another person this but actually to break it down and go right do affirmations but only if you bloody well believe it

Don't just start flying them out if you haven't got the foundation of, yeah, I do believe that I've got values and I am a valuable person to society, to my family, to my friends.

And if not, what an interesting time to change your life because you've actually worked out this isn't working.

And also, I guess if somebody has repeatedly told you when you were younger, you're a piece of shit, you're not good at this.

That, you know, it's not true, but you've been, again, hardwired to believe so.

And then that's a chance to go, why do I believe it?

It's because that teacher or that parent or that friend used to constantly berate me.

And the work, I guess, there is learning to, well, like unlearn that.

There's opportunity to change and to make your...

existence more peaceful essentially I think when you're not berating yourself so much and you understand you're a person of value that's mental peace isn't it like whenever I've been through any times of deep anxiety it's because I've lost that peace I feel it's everything's too jumbled nothing makes sense and to have I think certainly as I've gotten older mental peace is like one of my goals it used to be

make everything as exciting as possible, you know, like sort of adrenaline and all this kind of crazy stuff.

And now I just want clarity.

Yeah.

Mental peace.

Yeah.

Since I last saw you, you've also been through your own personal struggles and you were diagnosed with breast cancer, which you've talked about on your channels because obviously is a great level of connection you can have with your audience who have also been through something similar or had people in their family, their circle, undoubtedly, sadly, who have been through

a similar thing.

What did you learn about yourself during that process?