Gabby Bernstein

And how I would do the steps.

And how I would do the steps.

They're watching right now. They're like, oh, shoot.

They're watching right now. They're like, oh, shoot.

Yeah, exactly. Yeah.

Yeah, exactly. Yeah.

Okay. So the protector that's freaking out, right? She's freaking out because something isn't going the way she wants, right? So she's the freaking out protector. I'm actually doing a lot of work with her in therapy right now, so it's nice. And I do IFS therapy, so of course.

Okay. So the protector that's freaking out, right? She's freaking out because something isn't going the way she wants, right? So she's the freaking out protector. I'm actually doing a lot of work with her in therapy right now, so it's nice. And I do IFS therapy, so of course.

and she's having a freak out like you know some email isn't good or like the things aren't working as fast it seems not working as fast as possible or if she feels like she has a burden belief right this freak out girl her belief is if i don't do it nobody else will zing And so she is maybe just like, and she also has another, and I'm cursing a lot, but just bleep me, okay?

and she's having a freak out like you know some email isn't good or like the things aren't working as fast it seems not working as fast as possible or if she feels like she has a burden belief right this freak out girl her belief is if i don't do it nobody else will zing And so she is maybe just like, and she also has another, and I'm cursing a lot, but just bleep me, okay?

But she has another phrase that she says, which is like, what the fuck is going on here? And when I think about her, I think about, okay, so let me give you the check-in process. So let's say I notice she's coming in, she's showing up. And I'm like, oh, I notice her. I have enough awareness to be like, she's here. She needs help. So I need self to help, self help me. I'll say that again.

But she has another phrase that she says, which is like, what the fuck is going on here? And when I think about her, I think about, okay, so let me give you the check-in process. So let's say I notice she's coming in, she's showing up. And I'm like, oh, I notice her. I have enough awareness to be like, she's here. She needs help. So I need self to help, self help me. I'll say that again.

I need self to help, self help me. I, you know, have that awareness. I choose to check in. Step one, choose to check in.

I need self to help, self help me. I, you know, have that awareness. I choose to check in. Step one, choose to check in.

Yes, because. Remember, parts are like little children. So if you try to force something on a little child, like if I try to go to Ollie and say to him, bro, what the hell is going on? You seem upset. Let's talk about it. He's like, no, mommy. Like, get away, mommy. Right? So there has to be some buy-in. Okay? So there's some buy-in and I'm going to choose to check in.

Yes, because. Remember, parts are like little children. So if you try to force something on a little child, like if I try to go to Ollie and say to him, bro, what the hell is going on? You seem upset. Let's talk about it. He's like, no, mommy. Like, get away, mommy. Right? So there has to be some buy-in. Okay? So there's some buy-in and I'm going to choose to check in.

It's both. Okay. So it's, it's the choice. Choice is a self like quality. but the part has to make the choice.

It's both. Okay. So it's, it's the choice. Choice is a self like quality. but the part has to make the choice.

Yeah, it has to be my presence of self and his willingness.

Yeah, it has to be my presence of self and his willingness.