Gabby Bernstein

Openness, yeah.

Openness, yeah.

You never know. Yeah, yeah. You never know. We would say 16, yeah, yeah. If he was 16 years old, he might say things like that. He would say, screw you, mommy. Yeah, yeah. So who makes you think of Cartman? Do you know that I do a really good Cartman? Screw you, man. I'm getting hit.

You never know. Yeah, yeah. You never know. We would say 16, yeah, yeah. If he was 16 years old, he might say things like that. He would say, screw you, mommy. Yeah, yeah. So who makes you think of Cartman? Do you know that I do a really good Cartman? Screw you, man. I'm getting hit.

I'm really good at it. That's good. Choose to check in. So choose to check in. Detour from Cartman.

I'm really good at it. That's good. Choose to check in. So choose to check in. Detour from Cartman.

Choose to check in. So you have this awareness that the part's triggered and you're saying, okay, I'm gonna choose to check in right now. So you, step one, that's it, choose. And if you know that you feel that buy-in, like, okay, the part's ready to go, we can keep going, right?

Choose to check in. So you have this awareness that the part's triggered and you're saying, okay, I'm gonna choose to check in right now. So you, step one, that's it, choose. And if you know that you feel that buy-in, like, okay, the part's ready to go, we can keep going, right?

Choosing to check in is also just sometimes even having the awareness that you need to check in, because that's like step one. Step two is curiosity, become curious. These are all C qualities, remember, right? So it's like acting as if. And so the curiosity is start, so I'm in this place where this manager is up and she's like, what the going on here?

Choosing to check in is also just sometimes even having the awareness that you need to check in, because that's like step one. Step two is curiosity, become curious. These are all C qualities, remember, right? So it's like acting as if. And so the curiosity is start, so I'm in this place where this manager is up and she's like, what the going on here?

I have to do everything, nobody else will do it. And so I choose to check in with her and I become curious and I start to notice the feelings and the thoughts and the sensations inside. I start asking her questions like, where do you feel that in your body? And she's like, I'm not breathing. And there's tension in my chest. And I start to say, you know, what kind of thoughts or sensations?

I have to do everything, nobody else will do it. And so I choose to check in with her and I become curious and I start to notice the feelings and the thoughts and the sensations inside. I start asking her questions like, where do you feel that in your body? And she's like, I'm not breathing. And there's tension in my chest. And I start to say, you know, what kind of thoughts or sensations?

And her thoughts are like, what the fuck is going on here?

And her thoughts are like, what the fuck is going on here?

And I ask her for any images or visions. And she shows me my six-year-old self in my dining room with my pigtails. And I'm screaming. No bumps, no bumps. Because the only way that I could find control in this out of control life that I had was to control the bumps in my pigtails.

And I ask her for any images or visions. And she shows me my six-year-old self in my dining room with my pigtails. And I'm screaming. No bumps, no bumps. Because the only way that I could find control in this out of control life that I had was to control the bumps in my pigtails.

Right. And so she's, so this girl that's now this adult that's screaming, what the is going on here is the little girl, this is the vision that she shows me, the little girl screaming no bumps with the pigtails. So I start having all the, I flash out this information about her. You can see I'm like, I could tear up as I think about her.

Right. And so she's, so this girl that's now this adult that's screaming, what the is going on here is the little girl, this is the vision that she shows me, the little girl screaming no bumps with the pigtails. So I start having all the, I flash out this information about her. You can see I'm like, I could tear up as I think about her.

and that connection that you can you feel that connection i'm having right now yes that connection shows me that there's some self-energy here okay and so as soon as you start to feel some kind of connection to that part the third step happens and by the way you can spend as much time as you want in curiosity you could just ask more questions let the part speak the parts want to speak step three compassionate connection

and that connection that you can you feel that connection i'm having right now yes that connection shows me that there's some self-energy here okay and so as soon as you start to feel some kind of connection to that part the third step happens and by the way you can spend as much time as you want in curiosity you could just ask more questions let the part speak the parts want to speak step three compassionate connection