Gabby Bernstein

So I can look at that little girl and I can ask her, little Gabby, what do you need right now? And right away, she'll, she'll speak back. She'll say, you know, at times she said things like I need a mom or I need, I need to rest or I need to play. I need to scream. I need, you know, they're just speaking for what they need, right? I need to speak up. I need to be heard.

So I can look at that little girl and I can ask her, little Gabby, what do you need right now? And right away, she'll, she'll speak back. She'll say, you know, at times she said things like I need a mom or I need, I need to rest or I need to play. I need to scream. I need, you know, they're just speaking for what they need, right? I need to speak up. I need to be heard.

And so the little voice gets to speak up and say what they need. And once that response comes through internally, the fourth step is to check for C qualities of self. So you scan your inner system and you ask yourself, do I feel any connection? Yes, right now in this moment, I just did the check-in with little Gabby and I feel connected to her. Do I feel compassion?

And so the little voice gets to speak up and say what they need. And once that response comes through internally, the fourth step is to check for C qualities of self. So you scan your inner system and you ask yourself, do I feel any connection? Yes, right now in this moment, I just did the check-in with little Gabby and I feel connected to her. Do I feel compassion?

Holy, right now I feel so much compassion for her. Do I feel clarity? Yes. She just showed me. It's a little girl, right? She showed me exactly where she was. I feel clear what she needs. Do I feel calm? I feel calm, even more calm right now, just having done that check-in process out loud with you. Connected. Oh, yes. Courageous. Much more courageous. Clarity. I think I said confidence.

Holy, right now I feel so much compassion for her. Do I feel clarity? Yes. She just showed me. It's a little girl, right? She showed me exactly where she was. I feel clear what she needs. Do I feel calm? I feel calm, even more calm right now, just having done that check-in process out loud with you. Connected. Oh, yes. Courageous. Much more courageous. Clarity. I think I said confidence.

I got confidence.

I got confidence.

Creativity.

Creativity.

Check for C's even if you just have one C quality of self show up. You feel a little bit more calm. You feel a little bit more compassionate. You feel a little more connected. You've done the four steps. You've done the four steps even if you just get to check in, to choose to check in. Just even the decision to check in for two seconds is the check-in process.

Check for C's even if you just have one C quality of self show up. You feel a little bit more calm. You feel a little bit more compassionate. You feel a little more connected. You've done the four steps. You've done the four steps even if you just get to check in, to choose to check in. Just even the decision to check in for two seconds is the check-in process.

Your manager won't have enough of a pause. to pivot because the managers, we can become blended with the managers, which means we believe that we are that, right? Those times in your life when you get so worked up, right? And you're so, that you're like, I am the only one that can do this. Or, you know, the only way to live life is to fight back and tell everybody else that they're wrong.

Your manager won't have enough of a pause. to pivot because the managers, we can become blended with the managers, which means we believe that we are that, right? Those times in your life when you get so worked up, right? And you're so, that you're like, I am the only one that can do this. Or, you know, the only way to live life is to fight back and tell everybody else that they're wrong.

And that's the only way to live. And if anybody challenges that, like that's, they're gone. Right? So we're blended with these parts. Right. So the only way to start this check-in process is to slightly unblend by choosing to check-in.

And that's the only way to live. And if anybody challenges that, like that's, they're gone. Right? So we're blended with these parts. Right. So the only way to start this check-in process is to slightly unblend by choosing to check-in.

Yeah, and there's going to be plenty of times when we're so blended that we can't do the check-in until two hours later, two days later, even two months later.

Yeah, and there's going to be plenty of times when we're so blended that we can't do the check-in until two hours later, two days later, even two months later.

Yeah, you can check in hours later.

Yeah, you can check in hours later.