Gabby Bernstein

Everyone.

Everyone.

Yeah. And we have, and then lots of different protectors and there's two types of protectors. So you're still tracking with me here. I know you are. I just want to make sure that the audience is still tracking with me. I'm going to take this slow. So exiled parts of the young, traumatized little children don't want to feel those feelings. So they're too extreme, right, Lewis?

Yeah. And we have, and then lots of different protectors and there's two types of protectors. So you're still tracking with me here. I know you are. I just want to make sure that the audience is still tracking with me. I'm going to take this slow. So exiled parts of the young, traumatized little children don't want to feel those feelings. So they're too extreme, right, Lewis?

It's like, how could a child, you can't understand it. Your brain's not able to process it. Most adult brains don't have the ability to process that. Or most parents would say, you're fine, you're fine. Just get shut down. If you even did bring it to somebody, you'd be shut down, right? Especially with, or in cases of, you know, real extreme trauma, you don't feel safe enough to talk about it.

It's like, how could a child, you can't understand it. Your brain's not able to process it. Most adult brains don't have the ability to process that. Or most parents would say, you're fine, you're fine. Just get shut down. If you even did bring it to somebody, you'd be shut down, right? Especially with, or in cases of, you know, real extreme trauma, you don't feel safe enough to talk about it.

shut it down then you build up these protection mechanisms protector parts there's two types of protector parts but in my book i really just focus on one type so we'll focus we'll stay close to that there's managers and firefighters and so the managers are who we talk about in the book because the firefighters are who i want people to go to therapy to work with but the managers are

shut it down then you build up these protection mechanisms protector parts there's two types of protector parts but in my book i really just focus on one type so we'll focus we'll stay close to that there's managers and firefighters and so the managers are who we talk about in the book because the firefighters are who i want people to go to therapy to work with but the managers are

the control-free, you know, for me, I'm just gonna name my managers, you know, like, one would be like Knives Out is another one I named, like, if you with me, I'm like Knives Are Out, like, you know, like, you know. Destroy you, yeah, that's a manager. Vigilance was a manager for me. Just sort of like anxiety was kind of a manager for me. Think about it, anxiety, right?

the control-free, you know, for me, I'm just gonna name my managers, you know, like, one would be like Knives Out is another one I named, like, if you with me, I'm like Knives Are Out, like, you know, like, you know. Destroy you, yeah, that's a manager. Vigilance was a manager for me. Just sort of like anxiety was kind of a manager for me. Think about it, anxiety, right?

If I'm anxious and I'm, you know, moving, moving, moving so fast, like when you first met me, totally out of my body, hadn't remembered the trauma yet, totally scared. when I think about that time, you know? That anxiety was actually a form of protection.

If I'm anxious and I'm, you know, moving, moving, moving so fast, like when you first met me, totally out of my body, hadn't remembered the trauma yet, totally scared. when I think about that time, you know? That anxiety was actually a form of protection.

Because if I'm an anxious state, I don't have to feel the horror and the fear and terror of that other state. So that's a manager, the parts of us that are with us all day long, managing the big feelings of the exile. Okay.

Because if I'm an anxious state, I don't have to feel the horror and the fear and terror of that other state. So that's a manager, the parts of us that are with us all day long, managing the big feelings of the exile. Okay.

And then when the managers don't work anymore, like let's say something very big happens in your life, something extreme, and the managing is no longer working, that's when the firefighters come in. The firefighters will do whatever it takes to put out the fire of those impermissible feelings.

And then when the managers don't work anymore, like let's say something very big happens in your life, something extreme, and the managing is no longer working, that's when the firefighters come in. The firefighters will do whatever it takes to put out the fire of those impermissible feelings.

And that's when you pick up the drugs, pick up the workaholism, pick up the alcohol, the sex, the porn, the binging. the extreme addictive parts of ourselves. And those are the most extreme parts of us are the ones that are working the hardest to keep us safe from those feelings. And then there's good news. You ready for the good news? Yeah. We all have an inner parent inside of us.

And that's when you pick up the drugs, pick up the workaholism, pick up the alcohol, the sex, the porn, the binging. the extreme addictive parts of ourselves. And those are the most extreme parts of us are the ones that are working the hardest to keep us safe from those feelings. And then there's good news. You ready for the good news? Yeah. We all have an inner parent inside of us.

So those are all the young children inside, right? The exiles, the managers, the firefighters, right? The protectors and the exiles. They're all like running our world, right? Where like one trigger happens, this protector shows up, another trigger happens, it's like protector to protector. It's like a boxing match all day long, walking through life.

So those are all the young children inside, right? The exiles, the managers, the firefighters, right? The protectors and the exiles. They're all like running our world, right? Where like one trigger happens, this protector shows up, another trigger happens, it's like protector to protector. It's like a boxing match all day long, walking through life.