Gabby Bernstein

This is why it's called the four-step check-in. So the curiosity lets this part of you reveal information. And so it might say to you, how old are you part? And the part where I'd be like, I'm really young. How long have you been around? I've been around forever. And you start to flush out this information.

This is why it's called the four-step check-in. So the curiosity lets this part of you reveal information. And so it might say to you, how old are you part? And the part where I'd be like, I'm really young. How long have you been around? I've been around forever. And you start to flush out this information.

It might give you an image and you might see yourself like on the playground when that kid was bullying you, or you just start to, it creates connection, right? Curiosity creates connection. So that extending of curiosity to this younger part of us creates a connection from our resourced self to the part. And then the third step is compassionate connection.

It might give you an image and you might see yourself like on the playground when that kid was bullying you, or you just start to, it creates connection, right? Curiosity creates connection. So that extending of curiosity to this younger part of us creates a connection from our resourced self to the part. And then the third step is compassionate connection.

And this is where we would say, what do you need? Asking that part of us, what do you need? And it might say, I need to rest or I need to play or I need to feel seen. I need to dance. Needs to go back into its child role that it was taken out of at such a young age. And then once it feels a little sense of that compassion, I want to do it with you. You'll check and you'll see.

And this is where we would say, what do you need? Asking that part of us, what do you need? And it might say, I need to rest or I need to play or I need to feel seen. I need to dance. Needs to go back into its child role that it was taken out of at such a young age. And then once it feels a little sense of that compassion, I want to do it with you. You'll check and you'll see.

The fourth step was, do I see those C qualities? And I see in your eyes right now that there's motion coming through right now because I think you were doing the check-in with me.

The fourth step was, do I see those C qualities? And I see in your eyes right now that there's motion coming through right now because I think you were doing the check-in with me.

When you ask her what she needs, I'm slowing you down a little bit, okay? Because it's easy to go right back into the interviewer. But if we want to work with this girl for one moment, if you asked her, what does she need? What did she say? Or do you know what she said?

When you ask her what she needs, I'm slowing you down a little bit, okay? Because it's easy to go right back into the interviewer. But if we want to work with this girl for one moment, if you asked her, what does she need? What did she say? Or do you know what she said?

Yeah. Does she feel my presence with her? Does she feel that I'm seeing her right now? Yeah. It's really beautiful. Yeah. How does she feel about that? It feels great.

Yeah. Does she feel my presence with her? Does she feel that I'm seeing her right now? Yeah. It's really beautiful. Yeah. How does she feel about that? It feels great.

Yeah. Really locked in. Right. Right. Yeah. Really, really locked in. How else does she feel? Describe it. Kind of joyful right now.

Yeah. Really locked in. Right. Right. Yeah. Really, really locked in. How else does she feel? Describe it. Kind of joyful right now.

How does she feel towards you right now?

How does she feel towards you right now?

Yeah. Yeah. Do you feel any sensations of compassion towards her?

Yeah. Yeah. Do you feel any sensations of compassion towards her?

This is self-energy. So that compassion and that connection that you're describing, you're describing connection and the safety that you're establishing for her, right? That's that confidence. These are the C qualities of self. And so you're letting her, the little girl, know that self is here. And if she knows that now from this one experience, she now knows that she can check in.

This is self-energy. So that compassion and that connection that you're describing, you're describing connection and the safety that you're establishing for her, right? That's that confidence. These are the C qualities of self. And so you're letting her, the little girl, know that self is here. And if she knows that now from this one experience, she now knows that she can check in.