Gabriel Mizrahi

Okay, so I wouldn't go directly at either of those from the start because her friend's weight, to your point, I think there's probably some shame around that, perhaps quite a bit of shame. It's probably related to deeper stuff that our friend here does not even know about. And I think if she comes right out and says, hey, I'm concerned about your weight, that's a risky approach.

I think that's like hitting the shame button really quickly and she might shut down immediately. Good point. I also don't think she needs to go right at that particular issue. if the weight is ultimately a symptom of something deeper.

I think that's like hitting the shame button really quickly and she might shut down immediately. Good point. I also don't think she needs to go right at that particular issue. if the weight is ultimately a symptom of something deeper.

I think that's like hitting the shame button really quickly and she might shut down immediately. Good point. I also don't think she needs to go right at that particular issue. if the weight is ultimately a symptom of something deeper.

The Uber thing, her friend's general unthoughtfulness and the fact that she didn't seem very interested in her friend's experience, that she left her feeling used, that is also fair to bring up. I just don't know if it's the most productive thing to bring up from the very beginning.

The Uber thing, her friend's general unthoughtfulness and the fact that she didn't seem very interested in her friend's experience, that she left her feeling used, that is also fair to bring up. I just don't know if it's the most productive thing to bring up from the very beginning.

The Uber thing, her friend's general unthoughtfulness and the fact that she didn't seem very interested in her friend's experience, that she left her feeling used, that is also fair to bring up. I just don't know if it's the most productive thing to bring up from the very beginning.

Exactly. But in a way, she is touching on that by saying, hey, this menu reading thing got in the way of our time together.

Exactly. But in a way, she is touching on that by saying, hey, this menu reading thing got in the way of our time together.

Exactly. But in a way, she is touching on that by saying, hey, this menu reading thing got in the way of our time together.

If her friend has any self-awareness, I would hope she would go, oh, wow, I didn't realize it overshadowed the whole trip. I'm sorry about that. And then they can talk.

If her friend has any self-awareness, I would hope she would go, oh, wow, I didn't realize it overshadowed the whole trip. I'm sorry about that. And then they can talk.

If her friend has any self-awareness, I would hope she would go, oh, wow, I didn't realize it overshadowed the whole trip. I'm sorry about that. And then they can talk.

But I think you're onto something because it is a fair response to what went down. Whether this friend consciously intended to use her or not, she did use her. It's complicated because can you use somebody if you didn't intend to do it? I don't know, whatever. But I don't think it's the worst thing in the world to work up to saying,

But I think you're onto something because it is a fair response to what went down. Whether this friend consciously intended to use her or not, she did use her. It's complicated because can you use somebody if you didn't intend to do it? I don't know, whatever. But I don't think it's the worst thing in the world to work up to saying,

But I think you're onto something because it is a fair response to what went down. Whether this friend consciously intended to use her or not, she did use her. It's complicated because can you use somebody if you didn't intend to do it? I don't know, whatever. But I don't think it's the worst thing in the world to work up to saying,

Our trip left me with some difficult feelings, and that really bummed me out. Difficult feelings.

Our trip left me with some difficult feelings, and that really bummed me out. Difficult feelings.

Our trip left me with some difficult feelings, and that really bummed me out. Difficult feelings.

Yeah, and if she doesn't, then that would be a sign that this woman probably can't empathize with you or engage in this conversation. And at that point, I would probably say to myself, okay... I'm probably not going to get anywhere. Time to pull back. This person needs to figure this out in her own way, on her own timeline. I'm not the person she wants to hear this from.