Gabriel Mizrahi

When it got too much for me, I'm over 60 now, she encouraged me to quit.

She had always claimed that my stepfather left enough money for both of us, but now she uses her money as leverage over me.

and it makes me want to visit her even less.

The other problem is that she allowed her father to sexually abuse me as a child, let him babysit me when I was little even though she was a victim of her father too.

So, I have a bit of bitterness about this.

My children think I should just get over it.

It's done, and she didn't know better.

Perhaps that's true.

I wonder if that's what they actually said or if she's editorializing a little bit.

Which, if that's how they feel, I guess I can understand, but also easy for them to say.

My mother has no boundaries and shares personal things with anyone.

I prefer more privacy.

She has also betrayed me numerous times to benefit herself, another thing I didn't know until therapy.

For example, she moved in next door to me without asking.

That is such a crazy thing to do.

Can you imagine moving in next door to your child without talking to them about it?

They're just home one day and a moving truck pulls up to the house and your mom jumps out of a U-Haul.

Like, surprise.

That's so crazy.

She watches my every move out the window.