Gary Brecka

There are a lot of houses full of husbands and wives and kids that don't really know each other.

They coexist.

It's more of like a cohabitating place.

There's just a dependency.

But I don't know that they've really woven that fabric.

Exactly.

And how much of this is us...

setting the wrong expectation and being let down because we framed an unexpected outcome and when it doesn't happen, we're let down.

You know, because, you know, in the infrequent times where, you know, Sage and I have disagreement, it's usually because, at least from my perspective, that I've set an expectation for how she should behave.

Yeah.

That...

is not anywhere in line.

There's no basis for me to do that.

Like we have, you know, I have invited a bunch of guests over to the house that I didn't tell her were coming and they're there and she's in her pajamas working on the computer.

And I expect her to get dressed and come out and be happy and be engaging and come out and meet these people.

And she's like, no, I'm actually doing work in here.

I didn't know they were coming over.

You didn't tell me.

And then I'm upset with her, you know?

And then when I reframe it, I'm like,