Gavin de Becker

You know, that guy who starts to move over into your lane and then he catches himself and goes, you never trust that guy.

You always want to get way behind him or way in front of him.

So we're predicting human behavior all the time.

But I overvalued mine.

I thought, oh, I'm Mr. Genius predicting human behavior because I developed these systems of artificial intuition that predict human behavior.

And I was at a meeting, and there were a group of people at the meeting, and it was going to start in about five minutes.

And a few people were comforting one woman who was really sobbing at the end of the table.

And I thought to myself judgmentally, why did she even come to the meeting?

I mean, if she can't do the meeting, what's she doing here?

And I knew it was a boyfriend issue, right?

And that's what she's crying about, and they're comforting her.

The meeting begins.

And that woman speaks first, and she says through her tears, I'm sorry, you guys.

I'll do my best at the meeting.

But as many of you know, my husband killed my 12-year-old son four days ago.

So my little journey into judgmental prediction was about as wrong as you could be.

And it was a humbling experience for me.

Because I would have discounted that person in a moment.

That's the other side of prediction and intuition, right?

You can discount people and quickly toss them away.