Gavin de Becker

Don't all go on the same day because you'll fuck up Fiji, but go anyway.

The beauty of the Fijian village is that people will be born

and grow up, and get married, and have children, and die, all in the same house.

and all with the same people.

That's fantastic.

Because what they don't get that I get in my life and you get is the engagement with all these anonymous people that don't matter, right?

The waiter is just a snapshot to me, not a real person I'm sitting down with.

I like to, by the way, really engage with people at the expense of the friends I'm with very often.

I'm really curious about people, the Uber driver.

I'm curious.

But I know that this is a temporary relationship.

In the Fijian village, it's not a temporary relationship.

I'll give you a good example.

On an airplane, you're on a commercial flight somewhere, and you've got a 10-hour flight overseas to London or something, and there's a baby crying.

And you're pissed that the baby's crying.

Some people are.

I mean, I look at this.

When we used to travel, my wife and I, and I remember somebody saying when we boarded with my maybe 20-month-old son, is that baby going to cry?

And I said to the woman, what do you think?

It's a 20-month-old baby.