Gavin de Becker

They're sleeping in our environment.

We're really getting to know them.

By the way, it's 12 days now, but it started as nine days.

So now I know if I fire somebody or if they leave, they're going to do fantastic.

That was a big awakening for me.

But this idea that what's right for me is always right for the other person, what does it do?

It frees you to know that the only place I have to go to get the answer to this question is in here.

You don't want me messing around in your brain, trying to figure out what you want, trying to figure out what you believe, trying to figure out what's best for you.

I've hurt more people in my life trying to figure out what's best for them than I've helped.

And you, yeah.

Look, God only made you, or the universe, whichever word you want to fit in there, only made you responsible for one person.

Truly responsible for one person, and that's you.

And then that has, of course, all the ripple effects of what it does for the rest of the world.

Even our children, by the way, are we responsible for them?

Certainly not for life, right?

Because in my case, I'm an older father.

My first birth kid, I had a bunch of adopted kids, a bunch.

I had eight.

But my first birth kid, I was 52 years old.

And so I'm an older father to my 17-year-old son.