Gemma Mullins

I think that this is going to be a spicy episode, but also a really good one because whether you're navigating friendships in real life or navigating friendships in the online space, I do see a lot, especially between women and a lot of conversation around comparing yourself with others or even when people succeed, some weird things can come up there.

So I think that it's going to be a really useful topic to cover and I'm excited to get into it.

I agree.

First thing I want to talk about is the fact that I think that because this is a little bit taboo, no one's really talking about this.

Like if you do have a feeling come up, like say, for example, you are working towards, let's just say like a fitness goal.

And then someone who's close to you is also, maybe they're a bit ahead of you because they started before you and you might feel a certain way because you quote unquote feel jealous.

Now, I think that

There's a whole spectrum of emotions as a human, right?

Like things are going to come up and you don't really necessarily want to shame yourself, but you want to have the emotional intelligence to be like, that's not a great way to be responding.

And that's probably going to impact the friendship because of how I potentially treat them or celebrate their wins as a result.

So I think one, if you do feel that way, this episode is not meant to make you feel shit.

It's meant to help bring to light any way that you might be acting that's going to actually be to your detriment.

So back to the fitness friend comparison that could be happening, I really think the best thing to try to do in these situations when you want to compare is change the script, flip the script where you're actually being inspired.

It's not like you're the only person or they're the only person who can succeed and insert the thing.

It's very much a scarcity mindset.

Like Kate and I always say this, like it's ridiculous to –

that people can be that way where it's kind of like only one person can succeed because it's just so silly.

But back to fitness, business, whatever it is, there's room for all of us.

That's the first thing.

And secondly, if you are looking up to someone and you are feeling a little bit of jealousy, why don't you just think, fuck yeah, that they've done this thing.