Gemma Spake

Something interesting that actually occurs in friendship trios is that every member typically takes on their own unique role.

I think there are three main roles in every friendship trio.

This isn't necessarily scientific.

It's just something I've noticed by talking to people in my own life and with my researcher.

The first is the bridge builder.

Every single friendship trio has an organizer, has the center of command.

They have this one person whose kind of calendar is like the guiding force of the friendship.

They start the group chats.

They remember the birthdays.

They buy the football tickets.

They book dinner.

They tend to do a lot of like the practical maintenance that keeps these really intimate ties active and sustained.

Then there is the emotional anchor.

This is the person who everyone seems to turn to when things are tricky.

They are very emotive.

They're a deep feeler.

They're an advice giver.

They also often end up being the mediator, the group mediator.

I've noticed that the one person

who manages the emotions of the group is normally the one that's most likely to fall between the other two parties and is most likely to have to really deal with other people snarking about the other person and dealing with the other people venting about the other person in the group.