Gemma Spake

People start second guessing what's being said about them when they're not there and

you start to think like, if I'm having those conversations with that person, they're probably having those conversations about me.

And so there's like this low level paranoia.

Basically, what we are describing here is the stage right before resentment.

And we know from many key leading relationship institutes and experts that resentment erodes relationships faster than

probably nothing else.

Whatever your impulse is to shove it down, to ignore it, you have to fight against that impulse.

You have to swallow your pride and you have to say something because two options come out of that.

A,

You get through it unharmed.

You patch it up.

You understand each other better now.

I really don't think you know somebody, especially a friend, until you've had a first fight.

And so it's kind of a rite of passage.

You guys get through it and it's amazing.

Or B, you say something and you realize like this person was never going to be able to survive tough times with me.

Anyways, and I can stop tiptoeing like this was never going to work because here is this opportunity we have to work through it and they're not taking it.

So I think if nothing else, and this is going to sound so barbaric, but if nothing else, it's efficient.

It's just purely efficient to talk to people about your problems.

Okay so we are going to take one more short break here before we get into my final three tips for maintaining friendship trios.