Gemma Spake

The next one by the way is probably the most important of them all so stay with us.

The next tip I have that I really recommend for flourishing friendship trios.

It's like a tongue twister.

Flourishing friendship trios.

That's not that bad.

It's allowing the central or core person to change over time.

Trios are...

naturally dynamic like we've talked about these roles there will be phases when one person is more central whether that is because they are i don't know going through a breakup or because they're you know the ones who are organizing everything or i don't know like maybe they're like they're getting

married or the ones with like the most energy at the time.

Transitioning this over time and letting people flow into different roles and flow into like different seasons and be the one that takes on more and be the one that takes on less, I think prevents the resentment creeping in when you feel like you always have to show up in a certain way.

If you feel like this is kind of weird and you're

wait, this person isn't making as many plans, blah, blah, blah.

Maybe it is your time to step into that role yourself.

It is easy to see change as this thing that is life-ending, threatening, is going to ruin the friendship.

But if nothing major or dramatic has happened, it may be that you're just resettling into a new way of relating to each other or just your new roles.

So

Accept that change in your friendship is going to happen and just see how things fit.

It's like romantic relationships.

People need to take turns being different versions of themselves in the relationship.

It is super normal.