Gemma Spake

They never get the spotlight that professional success does.

That same psychotherapist who talked about learned helplessness, Martin Silkman, he also invented the field of positive psychology, if you want another fun fact.

He has conducted extensive research that shows that the strength of our relationships, whether that is with friends, family, a partner, that is the single most reliable measure of well-being.

more so than fame for sure, more so than money for sure, more so than achievement, more so than accomplishment.

All these things that we think are hallmarks and will determine a good life, none of it, all of it pales in comparison to close relationships.

Close relationships more than money, more than fame are what keep people fulfilled and happy throughout their lives.

Again, sometimes we need this grounding reminder.

If you are solely focused on being impressive or being seen in a certain way, then it means you don't spend time with your friends, you don't focus on

being somebody who can love and be loved, like those things are going to carry you so much further.

And the people who sacrifice that do miss out in a way that you may not be.

The final reminder, the final mindset shift I have for you today is to remember fulfillment and your dreams and executing your purpose has no deadline.

There is no expiration date.

This is the curse I think a lot of us struggle with in our 20s.

If I am not all that I want to be by a certain age, well, it's never going to happen.

I simply don't believe that's true.

And I don't see any evidence for that being true either.

I can give you like a very cliche list.

You guys have probably seen of all those people, Oprah, Harrison Ford, Vera Wang, like Morgan Freeman, who have become successes at 40, 50, 60.

But

I just think in everyday life, there are so many stories, if you start looking for them, of people who have found success at ages that are never highlighted or that we would never expect success to come to us at.