Gemma Speig
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1,085 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 7 May
Gemma Speig’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Accepting that people don't like you is basically just accepting, I think, a much deeper truth in life, which is that you can't control everything.
And you waste precious time trying.
Time that you could be using to do side quests, to make your visions into reality, to be like...
Whoever the fuck you want to be.
A study from 2018 showed that people who accept difficult mental experiences like these ones, like that of being disliked, rejected, they actually end up achieving a greater level of psychological health, a greater level of social enlightenment.
And they typically have more friends because this acceptance helps them change the narrative around why this is happening to them to be something that is more neutral.
Basically, they stop searching for a personal explanation for everybody else's problem with them and they realize that this is
a universal truth of being human.
Now, obviously some of these people probably should do some digging, but we're talking about the people who are falling in that 25, 10% of just like the general population.
There's like some people who don't like them.
They've tried to investigate and then they've realized that
enough people like me that it's probably not a me problem and they've come to accept the fact.
Again, we're not talking about people who have like, the majority of people have problems with them and they're like, I'm just more free if I don't think about it.
We need some balance here.
Ichiro Kishimi wrote the book, The Courage to be Disliked.
He says, I think this is the perfect way to just to succinctly tie it all up.
The courage to be happy needs to include the courage to be disliked.
When you gain that courage, your interpersonal relationships suddenly feel so much lighter.
So here is how we're going to do it.
Here is how we're going to find that acceptance for the thing and this specific thing we can't control.
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