Gemma Speig
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1,085 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 7 May
Gemma Speig’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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Dopamine plays a huge role in this process and it plays a huge role in motivating you to want to see them more, to feel good in their presence, to feel like the highs of uncertainty and unpredictability that is honestly so enthralling about the start of a relationship.
Like, is this going to work out?
Is this person going to be the one?
Your whole system, the whole system of romantic love is meant to be addictive.
It's meant to be motivational.
It's meant to really run on this heightened level of reward.
And I know that doesn't sound romantic, but it does explain serial monogamy really well.
New love is so addictive because it puts us into this powerful state of emotional intensity, of obsessional thinking, of heightened attention.
And if that reward state becomes one of the main ways that someone feels excited about life, purposeful, somebody feels emotionally switched on for the first time,
or in a long time, it makes sense that they would chase that feeling again and again and again, like the feeling of winning, like the feeling of getting drunk, like the feeling of getting high.
However, if slash when the relationship ends, the crash is profound.
It is deeply profound if they have been chasing relationship after relationship.
And what is the only way to not feel the crash, to not feel the hangover, is to get drunk again, is to get high on love again.
So what does this do to us biologically, emotionally?
Because you may be thinking like, what's the harm in this?
Love feels great because we're meant to experience it as much as possible in our lifetime, which I don't disagree with.
It's great for character development.
Even if it doesn't work out, at least I learn a lesson.
I learn more about myself and then one day the person I'm with, they will be the one.
What's the harm in just putting myself on the line in the path of love as much as possible?
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