Gemma Speig
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1,085 appearances
3 recordings
1 series
first heard Feb 2026
last heard 7 May
Gemma Speig’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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I think I find that hard to argue with, to be honest, but logically and rationally, you do actually lose a lot when you do not give yourself time to be single.
And progressing from serious relationship to serious relationship, especially when there is a high degree of desperation and fear and obsession involved, will do things to your character development and will do things to your emotional development.
I think the harm is that you don't ever get the chance to figure out who you are as this new version of you after this previous relationship has ended.
And more generally, you just never get the chance to figure out who you are alone.
And so you will always be, if you can't get comfortable being alone, you will always be at the mercy of somebody who could leave you.
And I don't just mean a partner.
I mean friends.
I mean family members.
I mean anyone.
You never develop that sense of like, I can handle this.
I know myself.
I know I am capable.
I can rely on myself.
That is your backbone.
Everybody needs that because at any point, you know, tragedy happens, life happens.
If you never feel comfortable being by yourself, when you inevitably, perhaps the universe, the world forces you to be by yourself.
You will look around and have no coping strategies and have no idea how to be here and be there in that moment.
I think it's that cost, the cost of our independence that is the greatest because those stretches of life where you are alone is what allows you to actively consider just you.
You don't have to think about anybody else's needs, anybody else's preferences or routines.
You're not responsible for anybody else's emotions.
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