Gemma Spike
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14,253 appearances
30 recordings
1 series
first heard Apr 2026
last heard 3d ago
Gemma Spike’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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being ugly and embracing your ugliness as a good girl and how to leave others to have their own emotional response, especially when that response is, some would say, uncomfortable.
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So stay with us.
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So I want to talk about this truly remarkable article that I read the other day from The Atlantic.
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And the article was titled The Incredible Freedom of Not Trying to Look Good.
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In this article, the author is basically saying
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I am an ugly person and being ugly has made me invisible in ways that have allowed me to do things and try things and work at things that I otherwise maybe would not.
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have been able to do if if I was preoccupied with being attractive or other people were preoccupied with my looks.
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Being a good girl and being an attractive girl often go hand in hand.
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Not always.
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but a lot of the time.
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Just like gendered behavior is really tied up in morality,
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so is beauty and looks.
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Just like being a good girl is tied up in conformity,
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so are certain things that we do for our appearance.
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If being a good girl is all about trying to be pleasing,
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What's more pleasing than
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Being pretty and nice to look at.
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Nor if being a good girl means doing things for others.
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This article basically argues that most appearance-based activities are for others.
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We can't see ourselves.
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