Gemma Spike

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14,836 appearances 31 recordings 1 series first heard Apr 2026 last heard 2d ago

Gemma Spike’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.

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The Psychology of your 20s · 460. The psychology of 'good girl' syndrome · 21 Sep 2026 podcast

Specifically after they've voice-verified

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You you s you're still looking for signs that you were rude or th or that you were off putting. voice-verified

I think the the other critical thing is like asking for reassurance from a friend or a partner or somebody else that was there, like, Oh my god, can you just confirm, was I rude? voice-verified

Do you think they liked me? voice-verified

Was I weird? voice-verified

Even if there is literally no sign that others were upset or bored or offended, this type of rumination voice-verified

Can and will lead to us finding issues where there are none and spending a huge amount of energy and time thinking about interactions that at this stage you just can't change anyways. voice-verified

There is a very interesting meta-analysis on this, so an analysis of a bunch of studies that was published in 2024 in the Journal of Psychiatric Research. voice-verified

And this meta-analysis that looked at over 35 studies. voice-verified

There were 10,000 participants across these studies. voice-verified

And what it found was that post event. voice-verified

rumination like this often changes our interpretation of a of an event to be more negative. voice-verified

Even if we voice-verified

left feeling positive right afterwards. voice-verified

So our perception changes with time. voice-verified

It's highly correlated to increased social anxiety and to people pleasing. voice-verified

So some other final signs of a good girl pump complex I just want to mention, I think you may also be very susceptible to staying in relationships way longer than you should. voice-verified

This goes for romantic relationships naturally. voice-verified

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