Gemma Spike
speaker
14,836 appearances
31 recordings
1 series
first heard Apr 2026
last heard 2d ago
Gemma Spike’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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recordings per month · last 12 monthsRecordings per month over the last 12 months — 31 in all, peaking in Sep 2026 with 9.
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If we experience love, parental love, as something that was conditional and tied to being helpful, quiet, agreeable, high achieving.
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We pursue those parts of ourselves and we learn to shut down the parts of ourselves.
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that don't result in that feeling and don't result in love, which is the messy, angry, needy parts of us that
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you know, might bring about shame or a lack of affection.
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As a child, this works quite well as a strategy to get love.
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But as good girl syndrome and good girl traits become internalized, it can almost feel like this is who we've always been.
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And we confuse what is basically a peacemaking strategy with
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with our personality.
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And we start to think
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You know, it's actually not that bad to put others first, which is maybe correct.
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But then we think, well, maybe it's not that bad to be miserable so that other people can be happy.
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And then we start to think, maybe this is who I am.
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I'm a nice person.
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I am I give, I'm I'm giving and so why change this?
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Why change these parts of myself, even if they're kind of
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Hurt me.
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I think it's really important to say as well, this isn't always a choice.
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This often keeps us safe and accepted.
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And as a child, that is our ultimate goal.
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At this point in our lives, belonging is all that we really care about.
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