Gemma Spike

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14,836 appearances 31 recordings 1 series first heard Apr 2026 last heard 2d ago

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The Psychology of your 20s · 460. The psychology of 'good girl' syndrome · 21 Sep 2026 podcast

But one way that this response also shows up that shows that this is more survival than anything else is through the fawning response. voice-verified

You've likely heard of fight, flight, or freeze. voice-verified

I'm pretty sure you have. voice-verified

Fawning is the silent fourth response that primarily impacts women and people who've experienced trauma or people who hold less power in society. voice-verified

Fawning was first identified by the psychotherapist his name was Peter Walker in this book he wrote. voice-verified

This book came out in 2013. voice-verified

It was on complex PTSD. voice-verified

And in the book he essentially says voice-verified

If you can't escape a threat and you can't fight a threat or you can't wait out a threat, you voice-verified

bec you will become something that the threat likes. voice-verified

And you will therefore hope that the threat will be nice to you. voice-verified

Fawning can include people pleasing, it can include chronic apologizing. voice-verified

Conflict avoidance? voice-verified

Excessive caretaking? voice-verified

emotional achievement to others at the expense of ourselves over agreeing. voice-verified

I feel like that's basically good girl syndrome and good girl complex in just fewer words. voice-verified

They are incredibly tied. voice-verified

Good girl syndrome and fawning res fawning as a survival response are intrinsically linked. voice-verified

What's particularly interesting for me is something that I said before, which is that as we get older, it can become harder and harder to differentiate between which parts of our character are shaped by good girl syndrome. voice-verified

and this compulsive desire to be liked, and which parts of our of this uh uh is actually just voice-verified

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