Grace Alice O'Shea

thinking before you go into a conversation, articulating what is it actually you're trying to say here?

Because sometimes then when we get into the conversation and emotions might come up and we can just kind of lose the run of what we were actually trying to say to begin with.

I would say regular check-ins is a good place to start.

Just relationship check-ins.

So even myself, my partner, we'll try and sit down about once a month and we'll be like, what's going on with you?

How was the last month?

Not even just sex, just generally.

How are you feeling?

What's going on for the next month?

You know, is there anything I can like support you with?

Just kind of a check in.

And then over time, start to build in the question about sex and intimacy into that.

How are you feeling?

Whatever way you start is probably where you need to start.

I think writing a letter is... If you think that would help you get out what you're trying to say and, you know, giving it to your partner and just saying, look, you know, I'm giving you this because...

You know, I just want to be I just want to lay out exactly what I want to say.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And it's because you love them.

It's because you love them.