Grace Alice O'Shea

Some people are like this person mute.

A lot of people are in the middle as well.

It could be just his personality, but it's definitely something he can try and work on if it's something that's really important to the person who asked the question.

How do you work on that is the thing.

You kind of have to look at why is someone so quiet during sex?

Is it just that they're so wrapped up in the moment and they're really in touch with the body and the pleasure and the physical side of it that they go to that place in their brain?

Yeah.

Worst case, are they dissociating?

Are they disconnected from it?

Like I'm kind of missing a bit of information here over like she knows her or they know their partner better than me, right?

Yeah.

If it is just that, you know, they're quite shy and it's just not something they've done before, trying to kind of introduce it in a way that's not super porny or performative where...

Say, for example, if I'm like, if I want him to say, oh, you feel amazing, like asking, does this feel good or how do I feel?

Like just giving prompts and that kind of can give someone the language to respond to the prompt, if that makes sense.

Yes, because the language is important.

yeah so you get it right yeah I know you can get it really wrong as well so there could be a conversation outside of sex where you're like these are things I really like to hear during sex and this is why I like to hear them and you know how do you feel about that um

It's like, you know, again, with the comfort zone, the only way to expand it is to be a bit uncomfortable.

And that's okay to be uncomfortable.

Totally.

And it's for you to kind of notice, okay, being a little bit outside my comfort zone is great.