Grace O'Connor

There is a very weird comfort in being around that.

I didn't want them to leave.

When they were there, I was just like, and for months afterwards, super glued to them.

James used to get up every morning, 5am, have a coffee and do the barrel, the ice barrel out the back.

The ice bath, yeah.

crazy I remember when he came home with it I was fuming this horrible big ting out my back and he'd always be saying do it Grace it's so good for your mental health and I was like that would be bad for my mental health so cold

So then he started, he would pay the kids to do it.

If you could do it, I was like full on, they're going to ring social services.

You're going to be ice cold.

So he was like 20 euros for so many days or whatever.

So they'd be doing it.

So we're all there one day and poor Mary next door, I'd say to her, this one's off a rock.

Her husband's died and there's laughter, music and his songs are playing.

I'm just like, what the fuck?

I'm not sleeping.

When I tell you to get up out of bed, I'm like, I'm in a... I remember Lily, my daughter, just sitting on the ground in the kitchen all the time.

She was just sitting there close to me, you know, and...

we were just sitting around the table and speaking about James and it's funny how grief brings people together.

Everyone knew, oh I know her, she's my cousin and everyone is somehow connected in some way and

All these things.