Heather Monahan

Back when I was in corporate America, I was in beyond so many BS meetings that were ridiculous and oftentimes you'd be dealing with peers and they'd be responsible for work and they're not hitting their deadlines and it affects you and you can't get your job done when everybody else isn't and the leader at the table isn't leading, right?

They're not holding anyone accountable and you're getting frustrated but you have to be PC and you have to smile and you can't call the leader at the table what you want to call them, useless, right? So there's this whole facade and dance that goes on in corporate America, which frankly, I do not miss. But so many of us are in it, right? So one of my mentees is knee deep in it.

They're not holding anyone accountable and you're getting frustrated but you have to be PC and you have to smile and you can't call the leader at the table what you want to call them, useless, right? So there's this whole facade and dance that goes on in corporate America, which frankly, I do not miss. But so many of us are in it, right? So one of my mentees is knee deep in it.

They're not holding anyone accountable and you're getting frustrated but you have to be PC and you have to smile and you can't call the leader at the table what you want to call them, useless, right? So there's this whole facade and dance that goes on in corporate America, which frankly, I do not miss. But so many of us are in it, right? So one of my mentees is knee deep in it.

Senior level executive, major company, but she's with a lot of peers and a leader who's not leading. And they have these meetings where they get clear on the outcome, but it's not clear what the deadlines are, what the workflow process is, who's responsible for what, and there's no follow-up email.

Senior level executive, major company, but she's with a lot of peers and a leader who's not leading. And they have these meetings where they get clear on the outcome, but it's not clear what the deadlines are, what the workflow process is, who's responsible for what, and there's no follow-up email.

Senior level executive, major company, but she's with a lot of peers and a leader who's not leading. And they have these meetings where they get clear on the outcome, but it's not clear what the deadlines are, what the workflow process is, who's responsible for what, and there's no follow-up email.

So when she explained to me the challenge she was facing, she doesn't want to appear a bitch, right? You know, she doesn't want to be nagging everyone. So I had a couple of ideas for her. One is to ask for help, because I think that's a really kind way to approach a situation. And most people want to help one another.

So when she explained to me the challenge she was facing, she doesn't want to appear a bitch, right? You know, she doesn't want to be nagging everyone. So I had a couple of ideas for her. One is to ask for help, because I think that's a really kind way to approach a situation. And most people want to help one another.

So when she explained to me the challenge she was facing, she doesn't want to appear a bitch, right? You know, she doesn't want to be nagging everyone. So I had a couple of ideas for her. One is to ask for help, because I think that's a really kind way to approach a situation. And most people want to help one another.

So you can always reach back out to the quote unquote pretend leader and say, I need your help. We left the meeting. I'm crystal clear on the outcome. Thank you so much for that direction. However, I'm not clear on this. Can you tell me who's responsible for ABC and when that deadline is? You know, so approaching in a more gentle asking for help approach.

So you can always reach back out to the quote unquote pretend leader and say, I need your help. We left the meeting. I'm crystal clear on the outcome. Thank you so much for that direction. However, I'm not clear on this. Can you tell me who's responsible for ABC and when that deadline is? You know, so approaching in a more gentle asking for help approach.

So you can always reach back out to the quote unquote pretend leader and say, I need your help. We left the meeting. I'm crystal clear on the outcome. Thank you so much for that direction. However, I'm not clear on this. Can you tell me who's responsible for ABC and when that deadline is? You know, so approaching in a more gentle asking for help approach.

Way is a safe way to be PC yet accomplish your goal. Another way that I like to do it is she was saying, you know, I need to get this information and report from my peer. We're equals. I can't tell him what to do. I can't tell him a deadline and the leader's not doing it. I would reach out, I said, with the headline or beginning of your email saying, I'm confused. I'm confused.

Way is a safe way to be PC yet accomplish your goal. Another way that I like to do it is she was saying, you know, I need to get this information and report from my peer. We're equals. I can't tell him what to do. I can't tell him a deadline and the leader's not doing it. I would reach out, I said, with the headline or beginning of your email saying, I'm confused. I'm confused.

Way is a safe way to be PC yet accomplish your goal. Another way that I like to do it is she was saying, you know, I need to get this information and report from my peer. We're equals. I can't tell him what to do. I can't tell him a deadline and the leader's not doing it. I would reach out, I said, with the headline or beginning of your email saying, I'm confused. I'm confused.

I'm not able to get my work done if I can't get access to your reports. Do you have any direction around when your team's pulling those reports together or when you can get them done? I just want you and I to both look great going into this meeting. How can we both come out on top? You know, can you give me some feedback?

I'm not able to get my work done if I can't get access to your reports. Do you have any direction around when your team's pulling those reports together or when you can get them done? I just want you and I to both look great going into this meeting. How can we both come out on top? You know, can you give me some feedback?

I'm not able to get my work done if I can't get access to your reports. Do you have any direction around when your team's pulling those reports together or when you can get them done? I just want you and I to both look great going into this meeting. How can we both come out on top? You know, can you give me some feedback?

So I love leading with I'm confused because it's not like you're blaming someone, but you need some insight into what's going on. And then the other thing is aligning yourself with them. Right. I want us both to look great in the meeting. And in order for you and I are in this together. And as you know, we need to rely on one another's information and reports together.