Creating Confidence with Heather Monahan
Confidence Classic: How To Pull Yourself Out of a Negative Headspace with Heather!
27 May 2026
Chapter 1: How can closed doors protect you instead of punishing you?
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Chapter 2: What life lessons did Heather learn from getting fired at 43?
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If something is truly meant for you, no one can sabotage that for you. When God closes the door, there is nothing anyone can do, including yourself, to open it. Next door isn't going to open if you're clinging on for dear life to that locked one that you're never going to unlock.
Chapter 3: Why is it important to let go of old relationships for better opportunities?
At 43, getting fired, I had no idea that that was God's redirection for me. God closed that door, not only on that company and that woman, but on that industry. I would have never written that. confidence creator, my first book. I would have never written my second book, Overcome Your Villains. I would have never launched this podcast that you're listening to right now.
I wouldn't have moved into this unknown if God hadn't shut that door. It took something awful happening for something incredible to happen. If that door is meant to be open for you, there is no one that can stop it. Come on this journey with me. Each week when you join me, we are going to... chase down our goals overcome adversity and set you up for a better tomorrow i'm ready for my close-up
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Chapter 4: How can a charity event shift your energy and perspective?
I hope you love this one as much as I do. Hi, and welcome back. I'm so glad you're back here with me this week. Okay, first of all, can I say a big shout out and thank you to you? I don't know if anyone said thank you today to you, but I want to be the one to say thank you so much.
I just saw that this show that you're listening to right now is number 10 on the entrepreneur chart on Apple podcast and number 23 on the top business podcast chart. on Apple in the US. That's incredible. I mean, I have had this on my list of accomplishments that I wanted to achieve, right?
So I've been very intentional about it from the time I launched the show in 2019, but it has definitely been a grind, right? This is, we're three years in, and of course, things don't always just explode overnight, even though we wish they would. So I just wanna say thank you because every time you listen, every time you share the show, every time you tell another person that you like the show,
or you post about it, or you offer me feedback. It just, you know, you're encouraging me. You're helping me grow the show.
Chapter 5: What is the 'Board Meeting' strategy for reviewing personal goals?
And this is a big part of my business and a big part of what I do. So thank you. It really means the world to me. And I'm so grateful for you listening today and whenever you do listen. So thank you so much.
okay so i wanted to share with you it's so funny when we are feeling badly which happens to everyone right we all have bad days which by the way i think it's funny when i do speaking engagements at my live q and a's people always say how do you keep yourself so positive all the time i don't no one does no one is positive all the time granted there's certain things i've learned to do
to keep myself in between the lines of positive and not derail entirely. But of course I have bad days. I know who to dial when those bad days come. I know what things to do for me, right? If I work out, boom, I'm gonna bounce right back. If I hit my playlist that literally speaks to me in a way that no one else can, boom, I'm gonna be coming back, right?
There's certain things I can do that I know will help me reset, reframe and move forward But again, this is, I'm 48 years old, right? I didn't know these things a long time ago.
Chapter 6: How can you stop obsessing over rejection and start seeing redirection?
And it was so funny. I was having a conversation with a young woman the other day. She's crazy over her boyfriend and she was telling me some crazy stuff she's doing. And I was saying, oh my gosh, that's crazy, right? Right. I was just trying to give her, you know, an honesty check that, oh, no, you don't need to do things like that, that that's not helpful for you or for him.
And that's not going to improve your life or your relationship in the long run. I strongly suggest you don't do that. Right. Kind of obsessive type of things. And she said she understood, but it was really hard for her because she felt compelled to do it. And you could tell she was really frustrated. She didn't want to be doing it. She was disappointed in herself. I've been there, right?
Chapter 7: Why is service and gratitude essential for changing your energy?
We've all been there. We've made bad decisions in relationships because of our issues that we have from our past. And she was having a difficult time. She had acknowledged it, which is huge and amazing, but she couldn't stop herself. It was driving her nuts. So I tried to give her a little bit of empathy and share with her. I said, listen,
You think it's so great that I know to do all these things, but I'm 48, you're 30, right? When I was 30, I didn't know. So I said, here's the thing. At 30, your skin is perfect. Your body is functioning and recovering so quickly and your life is so entirely different than at 48. You know, my eyesight was perfect then, not so much now, right?
So there's so many things that have changed, not necessarily for the better at 48, However, there are some things that have changed for the better.
Chapter 8: What does it mean to trust the unknown and believe in new opportunities?
You've had life lessons and experiences and read books and met incredible people. And, you know, you've learned and been through that journey, that growth journey to advance yourself. So I guess my point to her and the point I want to share this with you is no matter where you are right now, there's going to be some things about you that are amazing and you should feel so proud of.
And maybe some things you're still working on or aren't as great as they were years ago. And that's okay, too. But you know, no one's nailing it on all levels. And that was my message to her. Listen, yeah, I might have advanced from an emotional standpoint of where I was 18 years ago. But at the same time, there's some major deterioration over here.
You see me wearing glasses right now for a reason. So don't take it as one is good and one is bad. They're all just part of the process. So Things are always changing. You always have that opportunity to get up the next day and make a better choice. And I'm hoping that she does now that she's empowered with more knowledge.
Just don't forget, you know, information's where it all starts, but then it moves to application. You need to apply the information to your life if you want to have transformation in your life. Okay, so as I was saying, when you're not feeling great and we all don't feel great sometimes, there are plenty of things we can do.
I mentioned working out, you know, meditation, listening to music, you know, surrounding yourself with your A team that pulls you up when you're down, right? Some people journal, some people might, you know, want to be outside in the outdoors. Everyone's got something different. It's important to know what those go-tos are. When I was in a really tough time in my life,
I used to have a post-it note up that would tell me when you're not feeling well, hit it. And I just listed like seven things to go do. And I knew if I would do those seven things, I'd feel fine. So, or at least a heck of a lot better. Well, I was reminded because of an event, one of my clients had a charity event last night. I'm actually recording this on a Sunday.
And last night I went to a charity event in Palm Beach. And yeah, it was two hours away. Right. Quite the trek to get there. So obviously, you know, I had to leave my son, which, you know, at three in the afternoon, which meant he was going to have to figure out how to get himself to the haircut place, how to, you know, get dinner, how to get to his friend's house that night. Right.
There was a lot of. issues that seemed to be a little bit complicated or whatnot that had to work out. So it was kind of, it wasn't ideal, right? I much would have preferred this event be in Miami. That would have been a lot easier and it wasn't. So I made the commitment to go. My son had to make the commitment to work things out for himself and empower himself to be more independent.
And I took the two hour trek out to Palm Beach. Well, when I got there, I was so happy to get there. Number one, I invited a lot of people and it was so great to see my team that put together and worked with me and helped me so much and empowered me to give my TEDx talk. They were there. And so I hadn't seen them together in a while.
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