Holly Wainwright

They haven't really noticed that.

that their partner is kind of really checking everything and deciding whether or not they want to keep going like this or not and they haven't really noticed and by the time the woman comes to them and says hey sometimes too late and sometimes it's not whether or not you can remodel that but the other thing that is interesting about the quiet quitting I mean look I think there are lots of interesting things about it I think that on one hand it could be a season

So just like quite quitting your job, you might be in the same job for a long time but go through a period of time where you're just like, oh, you know, and you need something to happen to reinvigorate it.

The logical answer isn't leave your job.

It's that maybe you've quite quit and then maybe you lean back in and I think that can be true.

But the other piece is that leaving, even if you can afford it, even if all of those things are true, is incredibly brave and difficult and upends your life in all kinds of ways and not everybody is up for that.

that men also quite quit their marriages all the time.

Yeah, right, me too.

And one of the quotes in this that I pulled out because it was so familiar to me in a lot of people around me and women I talk to was that for women, this quote was, "'Passivity came up again and again in my reporting,' she writes.

"'Husbands tune out their disenchanted wives "'like Charlie Brown deflects the monotonous drone "'of his schoolteacher.'"

She's such a good, like, wah, wah, wah.

They make flimsy promises to engage more on an emotional level.

So women will often go and say, I need more.

Like, can we do date nights?

Can we go to therapy?

What about couples yoga?

What about, you know, whatever.

I need you to vacuum and empty the dishwasher.

Yeah, and it says...

They make flimsy promises to engage more on an emotional level or to help out around the house.