Holly Wainwright

Maybe they vacuum for a month or two or act all intrigued when a partner vents about an incapable colleague.

But eventually the extra credit effort falls by the wayside or just doesn't feel like enough.

And that, I think that men absolutely quite quit marriages too.

Maybe they're having affairs, maybe they're not.

A lot of this isn't really about sex.

It's more about...

the compatibility or not of living with one person for a really long time and I think that the question of what's new is I wonder if it's about expectation yeah because anyone who's been in a relationship for a really long time knows that of course not every day you jump up and go like oh my god I love our life together and you're the most interesting person in the world and all those things

But at what point is rubbing along and sometimes there's a woman in this who says we started sleeping in separate beds, which lots of couples do for lots of very legitimate reasons to do with kids, to do with snoring, to do with work shifts, all those things.

And then suddenly it's like when the kids go to bed, I go to my room and watch my shows and he goes to his room and watch his shows.

And then suddenly you realize you've had six months of that.

And it's like I think that the expectation of like what's okay to settle for, in inverted commas, is a conversation we're more ready to have.

And the answer to that will be really different for different women.

Yes, I think that's absolutely true.

And I think that even in the stereotype.

a more like domestic stereotype of a man going like, she's always on at me about something.

And like he just wants this quiet life of like, just leave me alone.

That is quiet quitting.

He's quiet quitting.

He's like, this is fine for me because I just get to do what I want really.

Because you still really like the person but it's just there's not, like your marriage isn't that much of an exciting thing.