Isaiah McKimmie

And is this just a phase we are going through or is this something that we can work on?

One of the things, while you've shared that actually over time you've become more comfortable with physical touch, one of the things that can happen for couples, and especially if they are having arguments in general or arguments about sex, is that they do stop touching each other.

Because touch might lead to a request for sex, it might lead to a request for more, and we don't want that.

And so some couples can end up just not touching each other at all

because they're not sure where it's going to go.

And that's a really sad and hard place for them to get to.

And, and so when, you know, when I have couples who are talking about, we're not touching each other in the ways that I would like, we're not even having, you know, affection anymore.

I want to understand what's going on.

around that?

What has led to this?

And is this something that we can repair?

Is this something we can work on together?

Do we need to kind of repair some of the other aspects of the relationship so that this feels good again?

Or is there something else going on that we have to acknowledge?

There is so much we can do before it leading to sex, right?

And there are so many small ways we can start.

One of the pieces to this that can be important and useful is, hey, I'm not...

I'm not trying to initiate sex here.

I would just really like to.

I would really like to cuddle you.