Isaiah McKimmie

Like, I want to make sure you don't think I'm leading you on here.

Here's what I would really like to do right now.

And so there is that understanding between a couple that a cuddle, a kiss, like even a passionate kiss isn't necessarily a sign that they would like something more.

So that communication piece becomes important.

And then when there is that understanding and that

Yeah, I would say like anything, affection, connection, sexual frequency will all change throughout the relationship at different times.

And absolutely at the start of a relationship, we're in the honeymoon period.

We have all of these different

hormones and endorphins running through us that increase our desire, increase like our craving for this other person, which often gets expressed physically.

And then that can kind of plateau and settle down as a relationship progresses.

And we hope gets replaced by other forms of love and knowing that your partner is there rather than just having things fall away.

Yeah, I think it's a really valid question to ask.

And also one of the questions is, is my partner making an effort with this?

Because sometimes even if we're not getting all of our needs met, if we can actually see that our partner understands our needs and they're trying because they care about us and they want to meet our needs, sometimes we're like, okay, like, sure, this is not as much as I want, but I'm

I can see they're trying and I can see that it's because they love me that they're trying so I can deal with that.

I think it can be if you're really struggling to understand each other's perspective.

And because of these feelings of rejection and guilt and fear,

that can come up when we're having these conversations.

You know, of course, sometimes that can come out as a really heated argument or discussion when you're both just trying to be heard and get your point across.

And so having this conversation with a professional can help you understand each other, help keep everything kind of calm so that you can then find ways to work together as a team on it.