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We Need To Talk About Arousal Non-Concordance

25 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Ever been mentally turned on but your body isn't responding? Or maybe your body is turned on but your mind isn’t? That's arousal non-concordance, a...

Are Humans Naturally Monogamous? 

23 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Do you think humans are biologically wired for one partner? Or have we been socially conditioned into monogamy? We deep dive into the science and his...

Unpacking The Manosphere w/ Tarang Chawla

18 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Louis Theroux’s new Netflix doco Inside the Manosphere has everyone talking. So in this episode, Dee chats with men’s violence prevention advocat...

Are Friendship Icks The Same As Relationship Icks?

16 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes our mates do or say things that are a turn off - but unlike a relationship, sometimes we let them slide. In this episode we find out your f...

BONUS: Is It Still Embarrassing To Have A Boyfriend? w/ Chanté Joseph

13 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Is Having A Boyfriend Embarrassing Now? When writer Chanté Joseph asked that question in Vogue last year, she broke the internet. It pissed a lot ...

An Expert’s Advice On Dealbreakers Like Having Kids

11 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

If you really want (or don’t want) kids, what do you do if you’re dating or in a relationship with someone who doesn’t feel the same way? It ca...

Should You Ever Change Your Dealbreakers For A Partner?

09 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Whether you’re on a first date, or deep into a relationship, a dealbreaker can come out of nowhere and really change the way you feel about someone...

How To Heal After A Pregnancy Loss

04 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Like we heard in last week’s ep, miscarriages are so common, yet so many people feel alone in their experience. So in this ep, you’ll hear from a...

Can You Date Someone You’re Not Really Attracted To?

02 Mar 2026

Contributed by Lukas

They say don’t judge a book by its cover - but does that mean you should always “give them a chance” if you’re not immediately attracted to s...

What Is A Miscarriage And What To Expect

25 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Miscarriages and pregnancy loss are so much more common than we might think. But no one really talks about them?! In this ep you’ll hear from Jess ...

Should You Have Sex On The First Date?

23 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone knows about the “3 date rule”, but is it always worth the wait? We find out why you’re holding off sex or diving right in, if there’...

What Is Piss Play? And How To Get Into It

18 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

When we asked what kind of porn you're into, so many of you told us you love piss play. We chat to sexologist and psychologist Laura Lee on this seem...

When Your Break Up Goes Public

16 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all been audiences to celebrity splits where dirty laundry gets aired out through podcast tell-all’s, tiktok sprays and album drops - but w...

What Your Porn Taste Says About You

11 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

What does the kinda porn you’re into mean? Is it just a fantasy or is it deeper than that?And how do you deal with feelings of shame and guilt if w...

What Kind Of Porn Are You Into?

09 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes what turns you on can throw you for a loop. Maybe you’re straight but love gay porn? Or maybe you consider yourself a staunch feminist, b...

Why You Should Watch Heated Rivalry w/ Mitch Churi

04 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Heated Rivalry is one of the hottest, most popular shows right now. So what is it about Shane Hollander and Ilya Rozanov that's got so many gay men A...

Can A ‘Friends With Benefits’ Relationship Actually Work?

02 Feb 2026

Contributed by Lukas

It sounds great on paper - a friend who you have no-strings-attached, drama free sex with. But is it really possible, and is it worth trying? We hear...

How To Deal If Your Partner Is Addicted To Their Phone

28 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Is your partner a massive scroller? Always on their phone for work? Obsessed with watching videos? Being on your phone too much in a relationship can...

Are Our Phones Ruining Dating And Relationships?

26 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

Nearly 70% of you reckon that phones are causing problems in your relationships. From etiquette and icks in early dating, to feeling distant and caus...

Our Heated Rivalry Summers

20 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

We're back!!! Dee and Pip yap about their summers. Guess who was sick and who partied non stop. They also debrief Heated Rivalry and let you know wha...

ICYMI: Should We Be Worried About The Rise Of AI Relationships?

12 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

ICYMI: Whether it’s for friendship, therapy or sexual and romantic relationships, AI companions are becoming way more normalised. So what does th...

ICYMI: I Think I Want To Go To Therapy, What Next?

05 Jan 2026

Contributed by Lukas

ICYMI: If you’re not feeling great mentally, or you want to work through some things, or you’ve just gone through a big life event - you might be...

ICYMI: How To Actually Have A Good Threesome

29 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Keen to have a threesome for the first time but duno how to go about it?Dee chats to sexologist Laura Lee about all the different ways you can have a...

ICYMI: Is Getting Back With Your Ex Worth It?

22 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

So you wanna get back with your ex. It’s a pretty universal experience and you told us heaps of reasons why you tried to rekindle the relationship ...

ICYMI: When Family Messes With Your Love Life

15 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever dated someone who's family was too involved, or a bit too close? Whether it’s your own or your partners - we hear how families with ...

The Biggest Moments In Dating, Sex And Relationships This Year

08 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re coming to the end of a massive year covering all things love, sex, dating and relationships here on The Hook Up. From the male loneliness epi...

How To Tell Your Friend You Don’t Like Their Partner

04 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If your friend is dating someone that sucks, or is downright toxic - what’s the best way to let them know? In this ep, you’ll hear from psycholog...

Should You Tell Your Friend Their Partner Is Shit?

01 Dec 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’ve all had a friend who’s dated someone you don’t like - but is it ever your place to say something? We find out whether you should tell the...

Why We Should Normalise Sex Toys With Partners

27 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Sex toys are an amazing way to explore pleasure and discover your sexuality - but there’s still a lot of stigma, especially when bringing them into...

Should We All Be Using Sex Toys?

24 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Sex toys have become more accessible and normalised than ever before, but are they making your love life better? From vibrators, dildos and fleshligh...

The Convos All Couples Should Have Before Getting Married

19 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Some people say one of the most important decisions you’ll make is the person you choose to marry. So how can you make sure you’re ready to tie t...

Do We Even Need To Get Married Anymore?

17 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It’s been a year of engagements and tying the knot for some of the biggest pop stars in the world, like Charli XCX, Lana Del Ray, Dua Lipa and Tayl...

Ancient Greek Myths Were Queer, Trans And Horny w/ Zoe Terakes

12 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Actor Zoe Terakes (Talk To Me, Nine Perfect Strangers, Marvel’s Ironheart) is reclaiming Ancient Greek mythology in their debut novel Eros: Queer M...

Is Your Relationship In A “Roommate Phase”?

10 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever been in a relationship where your partner starts to feel less romantic, more platonic, or even like your flatmate? You might have exper...

Healing From Complex Trauma w/ Stephanie Foo

05 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We chat to award winning radio journalist and author Stephanie Foo about her memoir What My Bones Know, exploring her diagnosis with C-PTSD – unpac...

Does Height Actually Matter In Dating?

03 Nov 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Height is something you (mostly) can’t change, and yet it’s one of the most contentious dating preferences - we’re lying about it on the apps, ...

How To Sext And Send Nudes Safer

29 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Do you find sexting, nudes and filming with a partner hot - but don’t know how to initiate, manage consent, deal with body confidence and understan...

Sexting, Nudes & Filming With A Partner

27 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

While you might not have reached chronic levels of being online, it’s fair to say we’re living through a screen more than ever before - so how ar...

How To Deal With Overthinking In Dating And Relationships

22 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re over-analysing texts, constantly questioning if your partner loves you, dwelling on their past relationships while also worrying if they’...

Is Overthinking Ruining Your Love Life?

20 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Whether it’s casual dating or locked in long term relationships, 80% of you told us that you overthink everything. We find out what that looks like...

Do I Have A Sex/Porn Addiction?

15 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What’s the difference between having a high sex drive, watching a lot of porn, and having an addiction to sex? That’s something we find out in th...

Is Being A Pick Me Or Performative Male Problematic? 

13 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever been called a ‘pick me’? It’s been a cultural buzzword for years to describe women who seek male validation by putting down other women - ...

Everything You Need To Know About Your Pelvic Floor

08 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Your pelvic floor muscles are connected to way more than you might think - like UTIs, constipation, painful sex, orgasms, even peeing when you laugh....

Are Soulmates Real And Are They Ruining Our Dating Lives?

06 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The idea of a soulmate might sound like a fairytale, but plenty of people still believe in finding that perfect match. In this episode we dive into y...

Male Friendships, Loneliness and AFL Culture w/ Brandon Jack

01 Oct 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ex-AFL player and author Brandon Jack tackles the peer pressure guys feel to fit in and some of the problematic ways men perform masculinity in their...

Is 'The Male Loneliness Epidemic' Real?

29 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

The conversation around men feeling lonely has become a lightning rod for social, political and cultural weigh-ins by everyone - but how do guys actu...

How To Deal With Mismatched Libidos

24 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you got a different sex drive to your partner? When your libido is out of sync, you can feel guilt, shame and rejection, making you question if ...

How Often Should You Be Having Sex?

22 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone’s got a number in mind but whether you’re hitting that goal is a different story. From hormones and medication to the mental load and mi...

What Is PCOS? And Could I Have It?

17 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you have irregular periods, excess body hair, acne, weight gain and are struggling to get pregnant, you might have polycystic ovarian syndrome. PC...

Why Is Queer Female Sexuality Not Taken Seriously?

15 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you're dating as a queer woman, have you ever felt like there’s an assumption that you’ll always “end up back with a man”? It seems like i...

Should You Get Back With Your Ex or Move On?

11 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Going through a break up right now and don’t know if you’ve made the right decision?In this episode, Dee chats to couples therapist Liz Neal abou...

Is Getting Back With Your Ex Worth It?

08 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

So you wanna get back with your ex. It’s a pretty universal experience and you told us heaps of reasons why you tried to rekindle the relationship ...

Is Your Relationship Worse Off If You Meet On A Dating App?

03 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Are you using dating apps, or in a relationship with someone you met online? Well, new global research found that couples who met through a screen a...

Why We’re Not Having Kids Anymore

01 Sep 2025

Contributed by Lukas

All over the globe, birth rates are falling and hitting critically low levels like we’ve never seen before. From the state of the economy and polit...

What To Do If You Can't Get (Or Stay) Hard

27 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever struggled to get hard during sex? Or maybe you had an erection but then you lost it?In this ep, we find out why erectile dysfunction happens, ho...

Has Social Media Cooked Our Expectations Of Dating?

25 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Princess treatment or bare minimum, “may this love find me” and the rejection of nonchalance are just a few dating trends going viral atm. We inv...

Mgen Is The STI You Don’t Know About (And It's Really Hard To Treat)

20 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Mycoplasma genitalium or Mgen is an STI most people don't know exists - and yet it's super common and can be very difficult to treat due to antibioti...

What Is A Lurker And Do You Have One?

19 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever gone out with someone who ended the relationship but still watches your every move online? You might have a ‘lurker’ - someone who’s told ...

The Science of Squirting & How To Do It

13 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

So many of you asked us how squirting happens, whether or not it’s actually pee and how to make it happen – so sex educator Georgia Grace answers...

Does Dick Size Actually Matter?

11 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

There’s a lot of pressure on people with penises to be packing heat - but is having a big dick all that it’s cracked up to be? We hear your hot t...

Period Farts, Cum Headaches & The Science Of Kinks w/ Dr Eva

06 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wondered why anti-depressants can impact your libido? Why your penis curves to the left (or right)? What causes thrush? Or how contraception aff...

Pornstar Angela White’s Advice For Amazing Sex

04 Aug 2025

Contributed by Lukas

From queefing, squirting and best positions for orgasm, to eating pussy for the first time, prepping for anal and getting out of your head during sex...

Deep Fakes, Cyber Brothels, And AI Misogyny w/ Laura Bates

30 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone’s talking about the rise of AI, but what about AI and sexism?Author and journalist Laura Bates has spent years investigating how technolog...

Should We Be Worried About The Rise Of AI Relationships?

28 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Whether it’s for friendship, therapy or sexual and romantic relationships, AI companions are becoming way more normalised. So what does this mean...

Are Professor Student Relationships Ever Ok? w/ Madison Griffiths

23 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

When it comes to professor student relationships, a lot of people argue ‘if everyone’s an adult’ and ‘if everyone’s consenting’ there’s...

What It’s Like To Be In A ‘Taboo’ Relationship

21 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Dating your best friend’s ex, boss/employee relationships, celebrities and fans, dating with a huge age gap - there are so many relationships that ...

When You Cum Too Quickly

16 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you struggle with finishing too quickly during sex (aka premature ejaculation) sexologist Cam Fraser is here to help. In this ep, we find out why ...

Is Birth Order Theory Actually Real?

14 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Does the order in which you’re born impact your compatibility with a partner? According to ‘research’, opposites attract eg. first borns work a...

How To Do Non-Monogamy ‘Ethically’

09 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re keen to explore consensual non-monogamy or open up your relationship - this ep is for you! Psychologist and Author Dr Chris Cheers chats ...

Is Everyone ENM Now?

07 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Seeing the term ‘ENM’ in dating app bios? Noticing your friends are opening up their relationships? Ethical Non-Monogamy is on the rise in young ...

What Does It Mean To Be a Dom Or a Sub?

02 Jul 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A lot more people are adding terms like ‘dom’ or ‘sub’ or ‘switch’ to their dating app bios - so what does it mean? Dee chats to sexologi...

Why Are There So Many Fake Doms?

30 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

What does it mean to actually be dominant or submissive in sex? Because you told us heaps of people are abusing their preference to be “dominant”...

Groundbreaking Research For Endometriosis Explained

25 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Around one in ten women and people with uteruses in the world have endometriosis. And even though it can be one of the most debilitating and painful ...

The Rise Of Femcels

24 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone’s talking about incels - but what about women who’re struggling to date and have sex? Enter ‘femcels’ – a term that’s got people...

Jemma Sbeg On Love And Relationships In Your 20s

18 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Author and podcaster Jemma Sbeg is behind one of the world’s most popular podcasts - The Psychology Of Your 20s. Always backed with receipts - Jemm...

We're Taking A Break!

02 Jun 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We're off on holidays!! Don't stress, we'll be back with fresh new content soon - but in the meantime go check out the feed for any episodes you have...

What Is Financial Abuse And How To Spot The Signs

28 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

You might not realise but financial abuse is a form of domestic and family violence. It can happen in your relationship without you even realising. ...

Does Money Matter In Dating?

27 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Is it a recession indicator that no one can afford to date right now? We find out how the cost of living crisis is impacting your love life, how impo...

How To Actually Have A Good Threesome

21 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Keen to have a threesome for the first time but duno how to go about it?Dee chats to sexologist Laura Lee about all the different ways you can have a...

How Are You Having Threesomes?

20 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

From spontaneous hook ups between strangers or friends, to carefully negotiated experiences between partners - there are sooo many ways to have a thr...

How To Deal With Floodlighting

14 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever had someone hectically overshare in dating? Maybe about their ex, or their mental health, or their trauma? They might be floodlighting.Dee chats...

What Is Floodlighting And Am I Guilty Of Doing It?

13 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Ever been on a date where someone trauma dumps their breakups, difficult childhood or mental health struggles all before your entrée arrives? You mi...

Kayla Jade On Her Wildest Clients, Dating & The Danger Of Full Service Sex Work

07 May 2025

Contributed by Lukas

She’s one of Australia’s most popular adult stars on Tiktok with millions of followers tapped into her life as an OnlyFans content creator and a ...

What You Need To Know About Getting Pregnant

30 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re going back to basics with pregnancy in this ep with Dr Theresa Larkin - covering how everything works from fertilisation and conception, to i...

Cumfessions LIVE Pt 2

29 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It's triple j's award winning and most complained about show – The Hook Up, live from Melbourne International Comedy Festival. 

I Think I Want To Go To Therapy, What Next?

23 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re not feeling great mentally, or you want to work through some things, or you’ve just gone through a big life event - you might be thinki...

Cumfessions LIVE Pt 1

22 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

It's triple j's award winning and most complained about show – The Hook Up, live from Melbourne International Comedy Festival. 

The Science Of Why We Fall In Love

16 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Let’s unpack romantic love!!!why do we fall in love? And why only with certain people over others? Is love at first sight real? Can you stay in lov...

Circumcisions And Commitment Issues w/ Comedian Will Gibb

15 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We couldn’t get him on for our live show, so we got him in the studio - content creator, stand up comedian and podcaster Will Gibb chats to us abou...

An Expert’s Advice For Dealing With Toxic Families

09 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Nearly 30% of you told us you’ve ended a relationship because of your own family or your partners. So whether it’s parents being manipulative, co...

When Family Messes With Your Love Life

08 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever dated someone who's family was too involved, or a bit too close? (Anna Paul and Atis???) Whether it’s your own or your partners - we...

Dylin Hardcastle On Queer Storytelling and Trans Joy

02 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re looking to read about queer joy, pain, heartbreak, love and hot af sex - A Language Of Limbs is for you. The story follows two lives ove...

Unpacking Adolescence, The Manosphere and The 80/20 Rule

01 Apr 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Everyone’s talking about Netflix’s new crime drama Adolescence atm. The series is about a teenage boy accused of murdering a female classmate and...

How To Ask For What You Actually Want In Bed

26 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re someone who struggles to talk about sex, or you feel uncomfortable asking for what you want (or don’t want) in the bedroom, this ep is ...

What Makes Someone Good In Bed?

25 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

'Good sex' is one of those things where you kinda just know it when you have it. But how do YOU define it? From communication, safety and enthusiasm ...

BV (Bacterial Vaginosis) Is Actually An STI!!!

19 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A new groundbreaking study has found that the most common vaginal infection bacterial vaginosis (BV) is actually an STI. This is huge news! Especiall...

Is Surgery, Filler And Botox Changing The Way We Date?

18 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

There’s new research saying that women who use dating apps are more likely to get cosmetic procedures. So how are you feeling about getting work do...

How To Deal If You Feel Shame After Sex And Masturbation

12 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Recently we did an ep on post nut clarity and 50% of you said you felt shame, disgust or embarrassment after orgasming.So in this ep, sex therapist A...

What Is Post Nut Clarity?

11 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever finished and had a massive realisation about your life, a partner, your sexuality? Maybe you find energy, peace and creativity? Or do y...

An Expert Weighs In On Game Playing In Dating

05 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In our last ep we spoke about game playing in dating - things like playing hard to get, posting thirst traps, not double texting, withholding sex for...