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Are We Are Playing Games In Dating?

04 Mar 2025

Contributed by Lukas

From never double texting and taking days to respond back, to giving mixed signals and posting thirst traps just to get a reaction - we hear how you ...

What You Need To Know For Your First Mardi Gras

27 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Mardi Gras celebrations kick off in Australia this weekend - so whether it’s the parade, hooking up at after-parties, or finding your people - here...

Does Setting Up Friends Actually Work?

25 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever set your friends up on a date? 89% of you would rather meet people this way than use dating apps, but there are some rules you gotta kn...

Why Are Guys Becoming More Conservative?

20 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

In our last ep, we spoke about how young people are the most politically divided generation ever. So why are guys turning to the right and becoming m...

Is The Gender Divide Causing A Dating Recession?

18 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Research shows that women are getting more progressive and men are becoming more conservative - so how is this growing political divide affecting you...

How To Have A ‘Healthy’ Fight

12 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of people think if you argue in your relationship it means something is wrong, but relationship therapist and sexologist Lucille Shackleton say...

What Is Micro Cheating & Is It Break Up Worthy?

11 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

‘Micro cheating’ is the new trend online, and everyone’s got a hot take on what it looks like. So what do you consider ‘micro cheating’? An...

How To Find Safe Love w/ Lucille Shackleton

05 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of the time if we’re struggling in our love lives, whether that’s attracting the wrong people, or ending up in bad relationships, we usuall...

Are You Missing Out On Dirty Talk?

04 Feb 2025

Contributed by Lukas

From moaning names and describing your hottest fantasies, we ask you what you think about dirty talk - what you love about it, what you hate about it...

Hot Wet Summer Debrief

28 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We’re back and we have a LOT to discuss - from debriefing our debauchery to hearing all about your summer secrets. ALSO!!! Pls pls pls fill out ou...

ICYMI: Can You Create Sexual Chemistry If It’s Not There?

22 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of you told us that you think you either have sexual chemistry with someone from the beginning or you don’t. So if you’re dating/sleeping ...

ICYMI: Morgan Jay On Dirty Talk, Open Relationships And His DMs

20 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Comedian Morgan Jay comes through the Hook Up studios to give us the sweet sweet sounds of autotune. Dee and Pip get the goss on his tour, dms, dirty...

ICYMI: What It's Like Having Two Vaginas

15 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Content creator Evelyn Miller was born with complete uterus didelphys, a medical condition which means she has two vaginas. She has to use two tampon...

ICYMI: What Is A 'Tradwife'?

13 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Tradwives are women who believe in traditional gender roles - they’re full time homemakers, living to serve their husbands and children. Now they’...

HACK: What It’s Like To Date FIFO

08 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Loneliness, trust issues, cheating, and casual hook ups with colleagues - these are just a few of your experiences dating FIFO workers. For this epis...

ICYMI: Angela White On Deep Throating, Crying After Sex And Feminism In Porn

06 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

We catch up with the world’s biggest porn stars Angela White and she answers your questions about the adult industry, how to give good head, femini...

ICYMI: How To Have Better Sex With Dr Tara

01 Jan 2025

Contributed by Lukas

Feel like your sex life is kinda meh? Sex and relationship professor Dr Tara is here to help!With 2 million followers, you’ve probably seen her in ...

Here’s Your Hook Up 2024 Wrapped

30 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Going boy/girl sober, dating with ADHD, talking about tradwives and being brat - we wrap all the sex, dating and relationship trends you went through...

ICYMI: How To Know When You Should Break Up

25 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It’s hard to know when a relationship has run it’s course - so when there’s nothing really wrong or really right, how can you trust your gut on...

Your Best Secrets Of 2024

23 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

From waffle stomping and ewok kinks, to reusing a housemate’s sex toy and having a SWAT team investigate your nudes - we round up the most cooked s...

An Expert's Opinion On Age Gap Relationships

18 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What does the research show when it comes to relationships with big age gaps? How likely are they to be successful? And when is an age gap problemati...

Punk, Queer Joy And Believing In Soulmates w/ Drag Queen Bimini

16 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Bimini’s legacy started on season 2 of UK Drag Race, throwing them into the limelight to figure out fame, their sexuality and how to express their ...

How To Become Securely Attached w/ Thais Gibson

11 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were able to change your attachment type? In this ep we have the incredible relationship expe...

OnlyFans Trolling w/ Comedian Chloe Maddren

10 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How to deal with sexual harassment in the dms? Well comedian and podcaster Chloe Maddren decided to make money off of it. We chat to her about how sh...

TherapyJeff Answers Your Questions On Self Identity, How To Listen Not React And ‘The Spark’

04 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We ask TikTok famous therapist Jeff Guenther what he really thinks about the therapy boom on social media - plus he answers your dating questions, ...

Is It Bad To Fantasise About Other People While In A Relationship?

02 Dec 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever fantasised about someone else other than your partner? Did you feel guilty about it? From replaying hot memories with your ex, to exploring your...

Meet Ellie Sedgwick The Vulva Photographer

27 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Almost one quarter of people aged 18 to 24 feel anxious or embarrassed about the way their vulva looks. But Ellie Sedgwick is on a mission to change ...

Can Age Gap Relationships Work?

25 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is age just a number? Or does it get icky if the gap is too big? We hear from you about your experience dating older / younger - from the positives l...

The Science Behind Dicks n Nutting (aka Sperm, Balls, Erections etc)

20 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Ever wondered what cum is actually made of? Or the science behind an erection? Why do wet dreams happen? What are the chances of pre-cum getting some...

Gifts, Nudes, Sentimental Stuff: What Can You Keep From An Ex?

19 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you kept photos, jewellery, tshirts, presents, sentimental stuff or nudes from your ex?We debate what’s ok or not ok to hold onto after a brea...

How To Do A Relationship Check In

13 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you struggle with "checking in" with your partner? Maybe you've tried to initiate the convo and they give you nothing back? We chat to couples th...

Are You Doing Relationship Check Ins?

12 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes it’s a good idea to suss how your partner is feeling about your relationship, reflect on the good and bad, and talk about the future. In ...

What To Expect At A Sex Party

06 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you've ever been curious about sex parties/bathhouse/saunas/events but you're a bit intimidated or don't even know where to start — we find out ...

How Long Should Sex Last?

04 Nov 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you having quickies or spending hours having sex? And is there a perfect sweet spot for how long the sesh should last?SHOW NOTES:The Conversation...

How To Get Intimacy Back In Your Relationship

30 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Intimacy with your partner is super important to have but it’s also easy to lose if you don’t make the effort. We get advice from a sex and relat...

What Does Intimacy Mean To You?

28 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Intimacy is SO different for everyone so it’s kinda hard to describe - from light touches and vulnerable conversations to cooking together and slow...

How To Deal With Anxiety And Panic In Sex

23 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Whether it’s getting wet, maintaining an erection, the pressure to perform and orgasm, being intimate can make you feel super vulnerable and can br...

How To Be Single

22 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you’re spiralling after a break up, you’ll probs hear someone insist “you just need to be single for a while!!!” People love to hand out t...

We Asked An Expert If Relationships Should Be Hard Or Easy

16 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Does a good relationship take hard work or should it be easy? Well… it’s complicated. We chat to sex and relationship therapist Isiah McKimmie to...

"Relationships Should Be Easy": y/n??

14 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When people say “good relationships take hard work”, do you agree? Or do you think if you’re with the right person, it should be easy breezy sm...

How To Tell Someone You Have Herpes

10 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It’s one of the most common STIs that often goes undetected for years - so whether you’re casually dating or in a long term relationship, how do ...

Did We Just Become Best Friends w/ Toni & Ryan?

08 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Toni and Ryan heard your secrets about livestreaming nuts and tonsil stones, we got some hot takes about how funerals make you horny, and Pip brought...

An Expert’s Advice For Neurodivergent Dating

02 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You dm’d us asking for tips - so we grabbed Love On The Spectrum’s counsellor Jodie Rodgers to share her advice on navigating communication, reje...

“Neurotypical People Please Just Say What You Mean!!!”

01 Oct 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Rejection sensitivity, masking, overstimulation, and not understanding non verbal cues - we hear your experiences of what it’s like to date with au...

ICYMI: The Imperfects On Learning How To Be Vulnerable

25 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

ICYMI earlier in the year The Imperfects were on The Hook Up <3 If you don’t know - The Imperfects are a hugely popular podcast where some of t...

Millie Ford on Dating With ADHD And OCD

24 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Huge fan girl moment for us in this ep!!! Content creator, muso and actor Millie Ford jumps on The Hook Up to chat about her love life. As a certifi...

How To Nail 69

18 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

To celebrate hitting 69k followers on Instagram, Dee chats to sex educator Georgia Grace about how to do one of the most polarising sex positions —...

"I Pissed All Over His Bed": Your One Night Stand Stories

17 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

For our first ever live podcast we went to Warrnambool for triple j's One Night Stand and heard your one night stand hook up stories.Like… being ca...

How To Break Up With Someone After Realising You’re Queer

11 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What should you do if you realise you're gay but you're in a long term hetero relationship?We chat to relational therapist Dabaco Sunset about how to...

Should You Care About 'Body Count'?

10 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you kept track of how many people you've had sex with? And are you worried about your 'number'?We investigate TikTok's obsession with body count...

What Will Happen If I Stop Taking The Pill?

04 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you're on the contraceptive pill there might come a time where you want to stop taking it. Maybe you're no longer in a relo, or you want to use a ...

Dating Diaries, Faking O’s & U-Haul Lesbians w/ Maddy MacRae

03 Sep 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We chat to content creator and podcaster Maddy MacRae about her dating diaries series on TikTok, her hot take on condoms, and how she’s trying to s...

How To Nut Again And Again And Again

29 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Have you ever wanted to shorten your refractory period?Men's sex coach Cam Fraser teaches us how. Plus, we learn how to have an orgasm without ejacul...

Your Tips On How To Have An Amazing Orgasm

27 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is there a certain sex position, or toy, or breathwork, or move you know will give you an incredible orgasm?We hear your best nut tips and tricks and...

What It's Like Having Two Vaginas

22 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Content creator Evelyn Miller was born with complete uterus didelphys, a medical condition which means she has two vaginas. She has to use two tampon...

Your Piercing And Tattoo Hook Up Stories

20 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do tongue, nipple, clit and penis piercings make sex feel better? Or are they emergency room visits just waiting to happen?We hear your piercing hook...

Your Science Of Sex Questions w/ Dr Karl & Dr Eva

14 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

What's the science behind pheromones? Can a big orgasm trigger your period? Why do drugs make you super horny? And can you shorten your refractory pe...

Is Romance Dead?

13 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you feel like no one's really romantic anymore? Like grand gestures, red roses kinda romantic.You tell us whether it gives you the ick, and what m...

What Actually Works For Pussy Taste And Smell

08 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There’s a lot of wild claims on TikTok saying how to look after your vulva, like using sprays, wipes, douches, tablets, and juices.But is it all ju...

Morgan Jay On Dirty Talk, Open Relationships And His DMs

06 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Comedian Morgan Jay comes through the Hook Up studios to give us the sweet sweet sounds of autotune. Dee and Pip get the goss on his tour, dms, dirty...

Why People Cheat

01 Aug 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are there some types of people who are more likely to cheat than others? Or does cheating happen because something’s missing in the relationship?We...

What It’s Like To Be The Side Piece

30 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We hear a lot about being cheated on but what's it like to be the other person? We hear from the sneaky links who were blindsided, and the people in...

How To Support Your Partner With Depression

24 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dating someone who's struggling with their mental health can take a massive toll on your relationship.So in this ep, we find out the signs your partn...

Should Your Partner Be Your Best Friend?

23 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is your partner your best friend, your only ride or die, and closest confidante?Some of you reckon if they're not, you're really missing out (and you...

Can You Create Sexual Chemistry If It’s Not There?

18 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

A lot of you told us that you think you either have sexual chemistry with someone from the beginning or you don’t. So if you’re dating/sleeping ...

What Actually Makes Sexual Chemistry?

16 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is sexual chemistry a spark you can’t explain? Or pheromones? Banter? Or when you get along with someone intellectually/emotionally? What actually...

Are We Breaking Up With Dating Apps?

11 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We chat to author and academic Lisa Portolan about why everyone is ditching dating apps, sussing out whether there really is a secret ranking system ...

The Ultimate Guide To Dating Apps

09 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We chat to seasoned app pro Outback Tom and hear all your tips, tricks, hacks and advice on how to decode dating apps.

What It Means To Be A Top/Bottom/Verse/Side

04 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Sometimes queer guys will label themselves a 'top', 'bottom', 'verse' or 'side' to describe the kinda sex they have, but what do they mean? In this e...

Making Friends As An Adult w/ Two Broke Chicks

02 Jul 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Keen to make some new friends, but struggling to know how to do it? In this special ep, we’re joined by soulmate besties and podcaster’s Sal and...

ICYMI: How To Talk Dirty (Without Giving Yourself The Ick)

27 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

In case you missed it in your feeds last year, In this episode, we get your hot tips on how to dirty talk and get some advice on how to chat to your ...

How To Deal With Bisexual Erasure

20 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We chat to psychologist Chris Cheers on how to navigate bi-erasure, whether it’s internalised or if you’re copping it from all angles

Has Your Bisexuality Been Invalidated?

18 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Why in 2024 are bisexuals still having to prove their existence as a legit sexuality? It’s called bi-erasure, and it’s a super common experience ...

How Porn Affects Us And Our Sex Lives

13 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Research shows on average people watch porn three years before they have their first sexual experience. So if porn is basically our sex education, ho...

What Is A 'Tradwife'?

11 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We deep dive into the world of tradwives with author, content creator and kinky historian Esme Louise James to find out whether this trend is a dange...

How To Date In The Current Gender Violence Crisis

06 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You told us you're feeling confused, angry, scared and worried about the current gender violence crisis, so how do you even date right now?We chat to...

What To Ask On A First Date

04 Jun 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Struggling to know what to say on a first date? Whether you’re socially anxious and need some ice breakers, or you want to suss if this person is c...

Could Your PMS Actually Be PMDD?

30 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you feel extreme sadness, anxiety, irritability, breast tenderness and bloating before you get your period, you might have Premenstrual Dysphoric ...

What Is The 'Boy/Girl Sober' Movement?

28 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Taking a break from dating, sex and relationships? TikTok's calling it 'boy/girl sober' and it's become a huge trend to delete the apps, reset and go...

What To Do If You Can't Orgasm Without A Vibrator

23 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you or your partner can only cum using sex toys and you're worried about it, well you shouldn't be.Sexologist Lauren French is here to tell you wh...

All The Creative Ways You First Learnt To Masturbate

21 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Did you ever experiment when you were first learning to get off? Maybe you used an electric toothbrush, humped a pillow or stuck your dick into an or...

How To Trust Again After You've Been Cheated On

16 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

The impact of cheating can last for years, stopping you from trusting people even if they give you no reason to doubt them. 

Once A Cheater, Always A Cheater?

14 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Do you think if someone's cheated, they'll cheat again? Or can people change?We hash it out with your hot takes.

How To Know When You Should Break Up

09 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

It’s hard to know when a relationship has run it’s course - so when there’s nothing really wrong or really right, how can you trust your gut on...

When Should You Know They’re The One?

07 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

How many years should you be in a relationship before knowing it’s going to be long term or for life? We get your hot takes on whether it's time w...

Blake Pavey On Hard Launches, Cystic Fibrosis & Why You Shouldn't Date Comedians

02 May 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We catch up with comedian Blake Pavey to chat about how his girlfriend soft launched him, the awkward experience of getting his sperm checked and hi...

Should You Check Your Date's Following List?

30 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

When you start seeing someone, do you suss who they’re following on their socials? We debate if lists full of insta baddies is a red flag, or if t...

Am I In A Codependent Relationship?

25 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Are you and your partner joined at hip, to the point where you can’t stand to be apart? Maybe you’re in the thick in the honeymoon stage or maybe...

To The Friend That Always Wants To Bring Their Partner…

23 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

There's always a friend who wants to bring their partner to everything, but what are the rules around when it's ok and when it's crossing the line?

Why You Need To Practise Post-Sex Aftercare

18 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

‘Aftercare’ has become a bit of a buzzword the past few years, but sexologist Lauren French is here to tell you why practising post-sex aftercare...

Is Having Break Up Sex A Good Or Bad Idea?

16 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Is break up sex healing or harmful? Will you get closure or just make it harder to move on?We hear your hot takes and find out why it was the hottest...

What Is A Banjo String? And What To Do If It Snaps

11 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you tear, break or snap your penile frenulum (aka the banjo string) it can be a big painful bloody mess, so here’s everything you need to know w...

Heartbreak High's Will McDonald & James Majoos On Intimacy, Dating Apps And Furries

10 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Term 2 has begun for the horny SLTS of Heartbreak High, so we catch up with our favourite couple from the show - Ca$h and Darren - aka Will McDonald ...

What Are The Rules For Housemates' Partners Staying Over?

09 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If your roomie’s partner is over every night, eating your food, hogging the shower and never contributing financially or to the general house ~vibe...

How To Have Better Sex With Dr Tara

04 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Feel like your sex life is kinda meh? Sex and relationship professor Dr Tara is here to help!With 2 million followers, you’ve probably seen her in ...

Sharing Passcodes And Going Through Your Partner’s Phone

02 Apr 2024

Contributed by Lukas

If you don’t know each other’s passcodes does that mean there’s trust issues?We hear your hot takes about privacy and going through your partne...

How To Heal From A Breakup With Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa

27 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

Dee catches up with neuroscientist and host of the Do You Fucking Mind podcast Alexis Fernandez-Preiksa to get all the expert advice on how to heal a...

Do You Have To Love Yourself Before You Love Somebody Else?

26 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

We all know RuPaul’s classic line ‘if you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?’ – but how true is it real...

Here’s Why You Might Cry Or Laugh After Sex

21 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You told us that you cry, laugh, get the zoomies, sneeze and get blocked ears, or itchy noses when you orgasm. So in this ep we chat to sexologist L...

When You Cry, Laugh Or Get The Zoomies After Sex

18 Mar 2024

Contributed by Lukas

You’ve heard of post nut clarity, but what about post nut reactions?We hear your weird and wonderful reactions post orgasm, from crying and laughin...