James Cordova

Like there's still a little bit of blame here that I wish my partner would eat.

right?

You know, I get that, right?

Like, we really want our partner to just like, mirror us and do their part in doing the same thing.

But it's sort of it's that extra challenge of like, oh, there's a little morsel left.

Let me just let me just go ahead and finish that one too.

Right?

Because the reconnection is really the point, right?

And

That all being said, it is also available for us to ask for something from our partner in that spot.

I do wanna accept the blame here.

I do wanna find our way to reconnection with each other.

And I am feeling like I would also love it if you could say something similar, right?

We don't want to put too much weight on that because it does start to recreate that sense of separation.

But if you can plant that seed and maybe give it some time and some space to flower, you might see some change in the long run.

But I'm thinking of that as secondary, right?

Because the real practice, and Monique is really showing some expertise in this spot, is to just wholeheartedly, I'm sorry for the part that I played in that.

And I want us to find our way back to reconnection.

Gosh, it's such a good question.

And it is certainly the case that we are all embedded and emerge out of a culture of gender socialization.