James Sexton

If you don't have a minute or 10 a week to keep your romantic relationship put together, you have no business having a romantic relationship.

You know, it's like, I think it was Thich Nhat Hanh who said, if you don't have 10 minutes to meditate every day, you need an hour.

Right?

Like you really do.

You need an hour.

Because if you've got that kind of a life that you now are like, oh, I don't have 10 minutes.

Okay, you definitely need an hour then.

Like so if you're in a place where you go, yeah, I can't make 10 minutes for my spouse or my partner to like talk about our relationship.

Cool.

Then you should put aside a lot of time.

Because you're going to end up spending it in my office for $1,000 an hour anyway.

So I think it's a better value for free to spend like 10 minutes a week just consciously being mindful of your relationship and learning and being open to learning and being open to hearing where you got it right and hearing where you got it wrong.

Wow.

You know, I think we look at relationships in a strange way.

I think we look at them in this very binary, it was successful or it was failure.

And success is you lived happily ever after, and failure is it ended.

I don't view relationships that way.

I think that we should be looking at relationships like chapters in a long book.

And I think, you know, all the relationships I've had

had, like any good book, moments of bliss and joy and excitement and romance, moments of pain, moments of misunderstanding, moments where I got it wrong, moments where I got it right.