James Sexton

And I think it's the same thing with this.

Like it's a great equalizer.

We just are all hungry for this, but we're all kind of bad at it.

And you can't pretend you meant to get divorced.

Like in our increasingly performative culture where everyone pretends whatever happened to them, they meant for that to happen.

And they're living this curated life on social media.

And all of us now are like watching everyone's greatest hits while living our gag reel.

to be in this place where people are like, yeah, I didn't mean for this to end.

And I kind of love that because I love that, you know, the barn burned down, now I can see the moon.

You know, like sometimes in the, you know, I think it was Steinbeck,

Or maybe it was farewell to arms where he said, you know, the world breaks everyone and sometimes people are stronger in the broken places hmm, and I think that like we do get stronger in the broken places and I think We all have had the experience of heartbreak and we know what that like you could go to any person in any culture, you know and go heartbreak and they go like like we all just remember the feeling of like what it's like like a

The first time that you fall in love, there's nothing more intoxicating.

And then the first time that you realize, oh, this can go away.

This isn't permanently gifted.

It's loaned.

And it can be taken from me.

I think when that happens, that's a deep cut.

and i i but i think it's also a great equalizer for all of us i think it's a beautiful thing and i think it's something we're drawn to i think we want to we want to be better at this all of us you know we all want to be better at this and i i think we don't necessarily ask for help we don't

teach this in school you know i spent a lot of time in school learning how to divide fractions i don't think i ever used it you know but like how do you stay connected to another person who you're in an intimate relationship with how do you not fall into like ruts and routines that start to make you feel distant from each other how do you disappoint each other

a little bit so you don't disappoint each other big ways in the long term.