James Sexton

And it was, people were very, you know, some people were like, oh my God, preach.

Like, why would you sleep in the same bed?

Like, it's like you starfish out.

It feels so much better.

And then other people are like, are you kidding me?

Like, it's so good for my relationship that we have that like time together in the den, all tucked in.

Just the fact that it's sparked this conversation is so interesting because I think we are hungry for this topic.

It's a great equalizer.

Like whatever your political views, whatever your dietary preferences, whatever your exercise preferences, whatever you do for a living, we all want love and connection.

We all start, if we get married, we all start the marriage with the same, I want this to be forever.

I want this to work.

Like, you know, one of the things that drew me to divorce work was the same thing that drew me to Brazilian jujitsu, which is it's very hard to be full of crap

in Brazilian jiu-jitsu.

It either works or it doesn't.

And if it doesn't, you get choked.

So you can pretend you're really good at it, but you're gonna find out real quick if you're good at it or not.

And that's how it's a progressive humility to stick with it.

That's why people in my experience who have been training a long time, they're just really easy people to be around because they don't have much of an ego because you've had it beaten out of you.

There's always someone better.

There's always someone faster.