James Sexton

Tell me you killed somebody.

My job's to help make sure nobody finds out.

That's my job.

Like I'm here, you know?

I really believe that people just don't, you know, they don't, they're not honest with themselves, and they're just not honest with each other.

But I really believe there are, and I've seen it, I know it, people sit across from me, they figure it out after infidelity quite a lot.

But the shame they have to carry around, because if they said out loud, yeah, it was really hard, but then we figured it out.

Now here's the thing, I understand why you wouldn't want to air that laundry.

because we do really beat the crap out of people for forgiving someone after infidelity and things like that.

But maybe that's also because we don't share that struggle.

And I understand why.

I understand someone who's been cheated on or someone who's cheated, they don't want to publicly share that struggle.

But if people were a little more honest about the fact that, yeah, this happened in our relationship and then here's how we moved through it, maybe we would view it differently.

All it really takes for us to see things a little differently is a couple of brave people to get up and say, why are we doing it that way?

Like, why do we do it that way?

You know, I've said before, tradition in one sense is the wisdom of the people who came before us and the lessons that they learned.

And tradition is also peer pressure exerted by dead people.

Dead people who lived in a completely different world than the one we live in.

Like, if you say, why are you getting married?

Well, my parents got married, my grandmother got married, my great-grandmother got married, my great-great-grandmother got married.