James Sexton

And if it's not, well, then you must pick the wrong person.

And I just I just don't think that's true.

I think that it's like anything.

I think that you have to you know, you have to I think our work is actually quite similar in the sense that I think relationships just like nutrition, diet, exercise are just lots of little things.

You know, it's lots of little choices that you make along the way and consistency and no single raindrops responsible for the flood.

know and i think it's really just about like how do we how do we really stay present in cultivating what's important to us long term do you think these kinds of skills can be taught or do you think we're ultimately all just doomed to repeat the patterns that we grew up around i think in the absence of reflection on it we are doomed to repeat the patterns that we grew up around or the patterns that we've established

as a function of those traumas or the ways we were raised or the experiences we've had, the ways we've been hurt.

You know, I think we break in relationship and we heal in relationship.

But sometimes when we break in relationship, we bring that broken part to the next relationship.

We bring that fear.

We bring that understandably so.

Like you've been cheated on.

You're going to have more jealousy perhaps.

You're going to be afraid.

And that's okay.

But like did you share that with your partner?

Like, do they understand that about you?

That it's not about them.

It's about that someone's hurt you.

And that like, because that's a beautiful thing to share with somebody, but it requires bravery.