James Sexton

This isn't permanently gifted.

It's loaned.

And it can be taken from me.

I think when that happens, that's a deep cut.

and i i but i think it's also a great equalizer for all of us i think it's a beautiful thing and i think it's something we're drawn to i think we want to we want to be better at this all of us you know we all want to be better at this and i i think we don't necessarily ask for help we don't

teach this in school you know i spent a lot of time in school learning how to divide fractions i don't think i ever used it you know but like how do you stay connected to another person who you're in an intimate relationship with how do you not fall into like ruts and routines that start to make you feel distant from each other how do you disappoint each other

a little bit so you don't disappoint each other big ways in the long term.

Like, how do you fight?

Like, how do we, you know, like most people learn how to fight when they're in a fight.

Why?

Like, why wouldn't you early in a relationship when there's an abundance of optimism and love between the two people say, hey, you know what?

We're going to have an argument someday.

What's that look like?

Like, are you somebody that needs a minute, you know, like so that you can kind of calm down and get yourself into, you know, process your own emotions?

Or are you somebody that's like, we got to figure this out tonight.

We can't go to bed angry because I want to I want to be good at this.

I want to be good at this.

So like, but we don't encourage that.

We have this perception that we should just be it should be so easy.

Like we should just it should.