James Sexton

It either works or it doesn't.

And if it doesn't, you get choked.

So you can pretend you're really good at it, but you're gonna find out real quick if you're good at it or not.

And that's how it's a progressive humility to stick with it.

That's why people in my experience who have been training a long time, they're just really easy people to be around because they don't have much of an ego because you've had it beaten out of you.

There's always someone better.

There's always someone faster.

And I think it's the same thing with this.

Like it's a great equalizer.

We just are all hungry for this, but we're all kind of bad at it.

And you can't pretend you meant to get divorced.

Like in our increasingly performative culture where everyone pretends whatever happened to them, they meant for that to happen.

And they're living this curated life on social media.

And all of us now are like watching everyone's greatest hits while living our gag reel.

to be in this place where people are like, yeah, I didn't mean for this to end.

And I kind of love that because I love that, you know, the barn burned down, now I can see the moon.

You know, like sometimes in the, you know, I think it was Steinbeck,

Or maybe it was farewell to arms where he said, you know, the world breaks everyone and sometimes people are stronger in the broken places hmm, and I think that like we do get stronger in the broken places and I think We all have had the experience of heartbreak and we know what that like you could go to any person in any culture, you know and go heartbreak and they go like like we all just remember the feeling of like what it's like like a

The first time that you fall in love, there's nothing more intoxicating.

And then the first time that you realize, oh, this can go away.