James Sexton

And that's what I really trying to say to people is that by the time you're in my office,

it's gone so sideways.

Because people fall out of love or break up the same way they go bankrupt, very slowly and then all at once.

It's like, it's slow, it's slow, it's slow, and then it just goes off a cliff.

And you wanna blame the cheating.

or you want to blame the financial impropriety or the lying, but those are, those are symptoms of the underlying thing.

And the underlying thing is almost always disconnection.

It's almost always small disconnections.

I mean, I think it's the same thing when you get a bad head cold and you just think, if I could just breathe, like if I could just breathe and not be sneezing and coughing, I'll be the happiest person in the world.

I'll drink water.

I'll take vitamin C. I'll do all the things if I could just feel better.

And then you do start to feel better.

And maybe for like a day or two or even a week, if you have real tenacity and discipline, you're taking better care of yourself.

And then you just go right back to being kind of an ungrateful piece of shit where you just go like, you know, there's other things, there's other things.

I really think that, and again, understandably so, I think we don't fix problems until they become real problems.

And preventative maintenance is just not a popular ethos anymore.

Like, it's not.

Like, we don't deal with anything anymore.

Like, you get a car, and in three years you get a new car.

So you don't really take that great care of the car, because who cares?